I did my bi-weekly rounds at the mall today in search of a job. I stopped into a new kids store that just opened and was greeted by a cute asian girl, who I designated my target for the day.

Unfortunately, I went in the store the first time with a work formal approach. I didn't talk much about her but was more directed towards finding the manager. Thankfully, I through in a comment about her name(Kim Lee) which sounded really asian and tried to pull the conversation over to the yellow Power Ranger. That didn't go so well, but I did get a smile and a laugh from the name comment.

I ejected and went to Starbucks because I was carrying some anxiety and negativity and because Starbucks was having a great sale ending in 10 minutes. So I went there, grabbed a frap, and sat down. I jotted down some thoughts, broke them down, and felt better.

From there, I went around the mall asking for advice on whether I should jump back into the set today or not. I got enough "yes"es to do so. At one point, I went to visit my bro who works in the mall nearby, and he commented on my jumpy-ness. I'm Italian, so when I speak, I speak with my hands. He told me it made me look too jumpy, and I should for the most part relax.

There was also another lady who I asked for advice. She was alone in the store so I figured I could warm up on her. The advice lady also gave me a yes.

So after about three talks, I went back in for the kill. I turned on my recorder at this point so you can hear me getting rejected in the link here and below. I walked back into the store, had a quick chat with the greeter(asked where the manager was and where the asian lady was), and then approached Kim Lee from the back-side area. I straightup asked for her number, but she misheard me the first time, so I changed what I said and said "I need your number" the second time. She told me she was uncomfortable and she had a boyfriend, so I told her that I'm just looking for friends because I'm new to this city. Still nothing. I asked when the manager was coming in next and left.

After being rejected, I got the advice lady's number.

Here's the link to the audio of how it went

http://marsz00.tumblr.com/post/5494761440

Although you can't tell in the audio, I was trying to keep my hands "down" during the conversation. When she kept misunderstanding me, I got nervous and lost my composure, and started orchestrating my words with my hands. As you can tell, I was a bit fast spoken as well.

Pros? I approached! I reapproached! I landed some attraction from the advice lady(else I wouldn't have been able to #close her) and I got some good advice and comments from my bro and people on how I should approach. I also got the employment info.

Negatives are obviously I failed my target set. My form broke down out of nervousness as well and I waved my hands around.

Points I feel the need to note: I love this whole boyfriend spheal coming from ladies. Not once did I even verbally imply that I was trying to get in this chick's pants, and yet she gave me the boyfriends comment. I even afterwards told her I'm just looking for friends and she told me she isn't comfy with giving out her phone number(lol).

I'm thinking of buying a pair of handcuffs because I can't keep my hands flat and motionless. They say that if you tie an Italian's hands behind their back, they won't be able to talk... lol

EDIT: Sorry, replace questions with points.