I wouldn't post an FR, but I've seen many posts advising others to post FR's, no matter how trivial.

tl;dr note: If you don't want to read the whole story, just skip to the lists at the bottom. They're really the useful part.

I'm 18, a senior in high school, and in the school play (If this sounds familiar, I posted an FR which involved these facts a few weeks ago). There's one actress who has caught my attention a few times over the past two years, largely because she's tall, dresses very uniquely, seems confident (but not self-absorbed), and is rather cute (a rarity in my school). That being said, I only recently discovered seddit, and didn't really think much of approaching her.

Anyway, she's an actress in one of the two plays our school is doing (I'm in the other), and at one point she asked me to get her script from, oh, twenty feet away. I responded

"It's rather far.. what do I get?"

I got a piece of gum, and discovered my new favorite gum flavor. Over the next two weeks, I decided, since she really does seem to have all those traits I described above, I might as well practice my sedditing on her, and I'd probably get a coffee with her after rehearsal, or at lunch (just whenever the weather wasn't rainy and I happened to run into her), and an opportunity hadn't presented itself for weeks; I began to feel quite like I had severe AA, even though I normally don't. Today, then, after rehearsal, I told her

"I gotta go to my locker, come on." (being careful to avoid asking it as a question). As we were about to leave, I said "I need caffeine. Let's go get coffee." We stepped outside and noticed it was raining, she asked if we could postpone until tomorrow. I smiled a little, "Come on, let's go." (Not whiny "Come ON", much more laid back). We did get coffee, and I made sure to kino, mainly arm touching, though I found some excellent places to escalate:

  • I noticed her nails were painted a very nice blue, so I said something like "Let me see your nails" and took her hand, complimenting the blue (Not dishonestly - it was a really damn nice blue)
  • We got talking about drinking, and she mentioned a friend of hers who got incredibly slutty when drinking. I mimicked such a friend, taking the opportunity to brush against her arm for a few seconds ("Oh hey, how are you?"), then pick fluff from her shoulder for a good while ("Ooh look, you have a little something on your jacket") and brush her face ("Oh you're so attractive").
  • She made a joke at one point (I forget how we led up to this) about her being incredibly attractive. Rather than being sarcastic, as has been my style for many years, I went for the agree-and-amplify route, and said something (very exaggeratedly, Shakespearean almost) like "You are radiant! The air you breathe is sacred, and the ground upon which you walk is precious." I then took her hand in both mine and proceeded "If you were to join me in matrimony, I would die from sheer joy."

We then got onto the topic of fashion and clothes, and I ended up saying something along the lines of "Well, then you can help me pick clothes" (all my clothes look the same), and then I said "Mall on Friday!" A moment later, I continued "Actually, I wanted to see a movie on Friday, let's do that too."

Later, when she was a few minutes from leaving (being picked up, not by her own volition). I made sure to clarify: "You are aware that when I said movie, I was asking you out, right?" She hadn't realized that, and I continued with "Well, I'm clearing that up now." She very quietly said "yes". I got her number after. From there, it was all pretty much the same (kept talking), and I grabbed her hand momentarily before I left.

Comments?

Things I think I did well:

  • Kino. This has been a stumbling block for me for a while, but it's amazing how receptive she was to it.
  • Eye contact. I caught myself looking away a few times, but I did make sure to keep strong eye contact until she looked away, sometimes.
  • Dominance. Not any "Is this okay?" questions; I chose the location, I chose the walking route, I chose the table, I chose the movie day, etc.
  • Confidence. We discussed some controversial stuff (relationships, drugs and legalization, polygamy, drinking) and I always gave my thoughts directly even when they disagreed with hers.
  • Push-pull. During lulls in conversation, I wouldn't be the one to fill them (unless I legitimately had something to say), I just enjoyed the walk (and later, the coffee place) and didn't worry. She filled the gaps quickly.
  • Posture. I leaned back in my chair a little, and put my feet up sometimes.
  • Miscellaneous. I got this from an FR (can't remember whose - somebody link me?): right after I left, I texted her "Some creepy stalker just forced a date on me. She gave me a satanic flying swan made out of gum wrappers.." (She made an origami crane out of a gum wrapper.)

Things I could improve on:

  • More kino escalation. It was mostly arm-touching, and I feel I could have done better.
  • Posture. I could have certainly spread out more.
  • Nervousness. I did some very anxious coffee-cup mutilation, without thinking about it. She did, too, but I made sure to stop quickly.
  • Push-pull. I listened to everything she said, giving strong eye contact very often, though I did listen while letting my vision drift around sometimes. I feel I could have pulled quite a lot more.
  • Smiling. I did this a lot. Laughing, too. She was legitimately funny (she's an actress, and very expressive with funny stories), but I feel I laughed a little too easily, and smiled a little too easily.
  • Agreement. During conversations where our opinions didn't agree, I said a lot of things like "I can see that" rather than always presenting a counterargument (though sometimes, I simply didn't have one. When this occurred, I was very honest and direct about it).
  • Doting. I certainly feel I was a little too nice. Complimenting her nails, her looks, her lack of self-absorption, and a few other things. I didn't do it in a sappy way, but I did do it in what I'm sure was a beta way.