So I was out yesterday and thought I'd give you guys a rundown of events. I don't know whether to call it day game or night game. Scroll down for the tl;dr.
Backstory -- I organize a weekly meetup for a local group of travelers. We are all united by our love of traveling, and we always keep getting new people, its very social, everyone's an extrovert etc. We meet at different restaurants in the city.
The time was 7:30pm. We had only 3 people (4 including me) and we were sitting at the table talking. As soon as the topic turned to something boring like work or studies or other dry subject, I tried to change it something more fun and light-hearted.
At the other table, I noticed two girls sitting and eating, one with a laptop out and opened. I was out of beer. So I went to the bar, got myself a drink, maybe DHV'ed by talking with the manager. And then I opened the 2-set. HBLaptop and HB7.
"Excuse me, hi. I noticed that you were sitting here at this bar with your laptop. You know, I've done that, and I know the feeling. This one time, my friend was really insistent on me coming out and I had to finish my work. So I was like "fuck it" and took my work along with. I bet she (pointing to the other girl, HB7) made you come out, right?"
Aside - be prepared to ramble for a full minute when you open as a friendly guy. You will be doing most of the talking in the beginning, and you want to be able to bounce around a conversational ball and branch off into different topics, hopefully seamlessly.
Then HBLaptop says "Oh no I wasn't actually working, we were just looking something up on this place's free wifi".
I banter for a bit, and then I mention that I'm here with this group, and I mention the name. She goes "Ohh no way! I'm actually a member of that group! I just never come out to the events, and I'm not active in there anymore."
Yes! Connection established!
In his book Day Game (go buy it!), Roosh says that you should talk about a few different things with the girl or the set, until they bite and invest themselves in the conversation. In this case, it was a pure coincidence that she was also a member of the same group, and I had an instant DHV because I was organizing the meetup. Leader of men, social proof and all that jazz. Most times when there is a connection in my game, I like to emphasize how random, fateful and coincidental our meeting was. Chicks dig fate.
Well, after that I reached the hook point in a minute or so, and then sat down with them. I sat next to HB7, but I don't think she was feeling me. It was on with HBLaptop though. We touched on different topics such as where I was from, weed (yup), bars around the area and all that.
Eventually I asked them to join us, and she said they had to be going. I numberclosed HBLaptop first, and then HB7. Here's another place to check IOIs - HBLaptop gave me her full name, HB7 only gave me her first name, and HBLaptop asked me to call her so she would have my number.
Now I'm wondering... a) should I invite both of them out next time because I'm more interested in HB7 than HBLaptop, and b) what to text her for the first message.
[tl;dr] I saw a 2-set with a laptop, opened them with a story about how I was at a bar with a laptop once, and they hooked after I mentioned that I was part of a group that one of them was also a member of.
EDIT: Here's what I wrote:
Me: Hi HBLaptop! It was good to meet you yesterday!
Her: Hey <myname>! Ditto, nice to finally see that the group is for real! (She initiated callback humor. I wasn't planning to but I'm glad she did. Looks like that connection stuck with her!)
Me: Its really real. There's some woman who came to last nights meet who is shouting up a storm online, bc she felt ignored. lol
Her: Haha didn't you charm her enuf?
Me: Y'know I don't go around charming everybody.. I do hope I charmed u tho, because I want to get to know you more. Drinks next week? (Yeah, I went direct. I felt I could though, with the vibe that I built. Note that I'm not beating around the bush and I'm not being a sappy herb and complimenting her either)
Her: Haha not really, not easy to charm me :P Yeah sure, next week sounds great
Me: Awesome. I'm out until Tue. how about thu.. I'll text you the place on the day of. <X Location> good or <Y Location>? (Aside: Wednesday is the meet where I first met her. Plus I think Thursday is a good night to meet for drinks because its close to the weekend but isn't the weekend)
Her: 9th, 10th and 11th I'm working near <Z Location> mostly. Can we confirm the venue next week based on how things pan out?
I haven't replied since then. Partly because I had no idea where Z Location was, and I just looked it up. lol [EDIT: Four hours later, I decided to just not text her again until I'm ready to tell her where we'll meet.]
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