I am by all means an AFC. I have tried hard my entire life, with moderate success.

So what i'm about to report, is something completely out of the blue. This is my FIRST ever day game approach.

A little background- i have a close group of guy friends and girl friends. Usually when we party, i'm turned off by the drunken sloppiness that is college parties. Some nights i can have a great time with my friends, and some nights i'm just tired. But i have no issues talking to girls normally. Growing up with a sister and all female cousins, talking to girls is almost second nature.

Attracting them however, was a completely foreign concept to me.

The race factor indeed plays into this, being taught your entire life that obedience is key and that eye contact should be forbidden.. well, you can see why it's difficult for me to spike attraction. I'm short, decently attractive, and have cigarette stained teeth. I dress well, but talk fast. Typical.

A sense of humor and a quick wit only goes so far.

I Somehow felt i needed to break free of the bonds of the past that held me so incredibly frozen in place.

This is where, lets call her...Doll came in. Doll was a girl i met over the internet, who lived about 40 miles away. There is no way that i'm driving that far to meet her. Despite that, we have been messaging eachother 1, maybe 2 times every day, with messages that go on FOREVER. We are two souls linked in different bodies.

I was talking to her about happiness one day and about how happiness comes from the sense of well being that is in every day interactions. Both coming from a sort of fucked up past, we both agreed that living in the present is the most important thing of all.

while i was the one who initially pushed the meeting off (i had some doubts, etc.) and friend zoned her, the bond that grew between us soon turned into some fucked up form of oneitis.

Yes, the dreaded oneitis. I read enough about PU to recognize it.

Fuck. well Fuck, i thought. She is currently in a polygamist relationship (i didn't move fast enough, oh well), and is incredibly happy. We talked, and the subject was brought up that since she became involved with the couple, so many guys that she failed to attract before came running to her.

And here is where the epiphany occured. I have read about social proofing. I never understood the forces that were at work, until this very moment. That pang of jealousy that shot through me when i first learned she was in a healthy, fun relationship even though i didn't want to date her, was a wake up call.

Holy shit, i thought to myself. These sort of feelings are UNSTOPPABLE.

there is NO WAY to make yourself NOT be jealous of those who are happy, fun, and awesome.

then i realized I"M FUN, and I"M HAPPY. Even if i get blown out.. these girls WILL realize that i'm AWESOME to be around and at the very least, will prove to be SOCIAL PROOF.

omg. the revelation. How did i not realize this before? All i have to go do is go out and TALK to people. Girls sitting there looking at their phones, bored, waiting for rides, are all WAITING for me to go TALK TO THEM. they NEED someone like me in their lives.

WTF? MIND=BLOWN.

As much as i have READ about these things, it is COMPLETELY different than when you discover them on your own.

To the actual FR now: Walking out of the mall from lunch, after my sudden epiphany, the world had changed. I walked with an incredible amount of confidence. My job requires me to return many phone calls every day, so thats where i work on speaking slower and with more of a commanding tone.

Leaving the mall, i see this hb8 sitting on the side of the bench, smoking a cigarette and looking at her phone.

Something inside me erupted. It was a mass explosion of testosterone and the DESIRE to get out there, and become the person i knew i was.

I walked up, straight to her and said the following.(with a huge, cheesy grin and as commanding a tone as i could)

Hello.. you don't know me.... and I don't know you, but ...i do know you.. are.. FUCKING adorable.

(Comments: I made the effort to say and pause as long as possible between the words, in order to stretch the eye contact out for as long as possible. my toes were also twitching like MAD. the amount of anxiety and nervousness was off the chart but luckily, i was wearing closed toes shoes)

Look, i have to get back to work in a second.... so check this out.

i have a friend.. great girl.. sweet as can be, but grew up in a really bad situation. She has been hurt a lot by men, and doesn't trust easily anymore. What is the simplest action that i could take.. to show her that not all men are assholes?

(here is where i LISTENED: i just asked her what she thinks is the sweetest thing to do to earn trust... how could i throw this knowledge away?)

her: hmm thats hard.. I think it's a combination of showing her you care when she leasts expects it and sticking up for her no matter what.

Me: (Defending the womanz, and spontenaity). "Showing her i care? with material gifts or actions.. I mean, she lives kinda far away. There is no way i could do this side hug or even this grabbed her hand and locked fingers, moved away... what other options are there?

Me: look, i really have to get back to work. I would love to continue this conversation, how could we do this?

her: We could meet for a cup of coffee smiles

Me: Ew your one of thooose people? I find coffee drinks to be so incredibly pretentious (she was dressed like a hipster... it was an honest* neg)

her: noo i'm not hits

Me: i have to go (i start getting up and walking away at this point)- Give me your number her: obliges

walk away with a giant smile on my face, now posting this from work.

So fellow sedditors, what could i have done better? I am a changed man. I have the feck of a million bulls.

To be honest, i dont have many DHV stories i can drop. I'm 21, in college, working a temp job, and while i've done TONS of things, none of them are really interesting (or they are DLV stories- i've done TONS of hilarious stupid shit while drunk)