Nothing spectacular here, but thought I'd break down some of the transitions from my point of view, for comments / feedback

HB contacts me via online dating site, profile and message state she is just looking for friends and is in a relationship. I respond back with something playfully sexual, but said I'd be up for night out with her friends, as friends, no response. 2 weeks go by. Get a txt out of blue asking if I'm free for drinks on weeknight. Here we go.

Arrive and she is by herself, she doesn't weird me out so 2 drinks later we bounce for sushi. Talk included past relationships and her current boyfriend(she has one) / roommate / etc situation. Kino on way out and on way to next place(this point only friendship has been brought up but no harm in keeping up kino between friends, right?)

Arrive at new place, turn talk sexual about past experiences trying to outdo each other, start checking out other girls at the place(HB is bi), discussing likes / dislikes. I hit bathroom and when I get back, I deliver:

  • Me: "I want to know how to frame tonight and our conversations, are you and your boyfriend strictly monogamous?"
  • Her: "Yes we are, but I've had problems with cheating in the past".

I quickly move back to an unrelated previous conversation thread, but it is game on as far as I'm concerned. Kept up kino until we had our fingers interlocked under the bar.(nothing in view of others)

Later on, the fact that guys in her life don't like performing oral comes up, I figure that is as good as any other opportunity so I state:

  • Me: "I'm not having sex with you tonight, but that is a wrong that needs to be righted, lets go back to my place for a drink".
  • She gives me a look and "what does that mean?"
  • Me: "exactly what you think it means".
  • Her: "Nothing like that is going to happen, but I wouldn't mind another drink at your place."

Shortly after we close out tabs, she follows me back to my place, rest was pretty standard, dealt with LMR, she was amazing in bed.