I apologize for what is a long FR. I just need to throw down the last 3 nights of my life and sort it out.

Wednesday

This story starts with going out for dinner and drinks with 5 American girls here in England. I had met them all around my campus previously, and worked my way into their social group. Good stuff. One of them had been showing a lot of IOIs and was open to hanging out, so I had taken that and filed it under someone to pursue. We'll call her C for ease. The whole group is cool, there is one other girl, K, that is attractive and has been showing IOIs, so I'm mediating this kind of climate. Wednesday night, I go in with no expectations but to see where it all goes.

We go for dinner and I'm controlling the frame of the conversation of the group, leading with questions, stories, etc. We all decide to head out to a little bar called The Hobbit that serves lord of the rings themed drinks. At the bar here, I'm sort of laughing at the whole LOTR thing, because I was never a big fan. Me and C are connecting over this and sort of making jokes at the whole concept, but mostly just talking about our lives and getting to know each other. We are all around the pool table, so the whole group is mingling and socializing and meeting people. Eventually the group decides that they want to go to a dance club. I wasn't totally in for this, and neither was C, so I walk her back to her place, which is just down the road from mine. She talks about how she wants to come over to watch movies later in the week, and how she's going to sign up to come to Amsterdam with me through a school program. I escalate with a little bit of kino, but don't go in for the kiss. Probably a mistake here, but that's alright I figure, I'll get her next time. Such is life. I head home and crash.

Thursday

I start the day by pinching a nerve in my neck, making just about everything very painful and uncomfortable. I'm supposed to attend a white t shirt party this night, and I'm kind of reconsidering the whole thing. At about 3pm, I was thinking that I wasn't really gonna be in a good state to go out and approach, so I toss an invite to C: "hey, tonight you should come out to this white t shirt thing. We're meeting at my place at 8."

She responds lukewarm, saying she might drop by for the pre-drink. I say ok, she says she will text me later.

8pm rolls around, I haven't heard anything from her. Fuck it, I say, i'm not gonna let myself be all sour about this one girl. So I head off to a large house party, and being slightly pissed off about one girl got me into state for sure. I meet an Austrian girl on my walk over who is going to the same place, and we hit it off, getting lost on our walk over and wandering off from the other group of people walking with us. She's not drinking at this event much, which I've always had a bit of a problem with in terms of frame control.* Q: should you aim to match drink level with a girl you are interested in?* So I talk to her and get some great IOIs, and she's very much interested in me. We get into the house party, and I'm essentially opening everyone there. I meet a norwegian girl who is incredibly attractive. I escalate some kino by getting us to draw on each other's shirts - the premise of the party - and i draw this out by having each of us draw the other country's flag. We're having a great conversation, and eventually it becomes time to walk over to the venue hosting the event. As I'm walking, everyone is sort of mixing up. I run into the Austrian girl again, and we're talking about accents. We both find each others accent interesting, so we could tease each other and have a flirty conversation based on this. We get to the venue, and she's still not drinking as a result of a bout with food poisoning a few days earlier. As well, she seems really shy, and I figure it would probably take a longer time to get this girl to a sexual mood. As well, Im in a bar full of hot women. I grab her facebook (not my preferred close, but that's how she wanted to be contacted).

At the event, I basically open up every set I can. Some are sticking well, some aren't. My goal from all of this was to build familiarity with many of these people; they are all international students who I will see and get to know around this town, so I'm grabbing numbers and getting people to write on my shirt. (A good tease at these parties is to say I wanna write on a girls back, and instead of writing on the shirt sign the back of their neck. Got a lot of girls to turn around and playfully hit me and stuff.)

So I progress opening sets, really attacking my previous AA. At the end of the night, I run into the norwegian girl. I had seen her around, and she had been really open to kino and such, but the rigours of so many people running into each other and everything meant that I had truoble isolating her. Whatever. So she says she's leaving, and "soo...maybe I'll see you around campus or something?" Obviously, I transition this straight to the number close, which she is enthusiastic about, so I grab that, give her a close hug, and she heads on her way. The rest of my night results in walking a drunk spanish girl home and being pretty lost, but its nothing worth speaking of. I'm kind of pissed at myself at this point, because I'm doing a lot of things well, but not closing. I meditate on this point for a little while, and eventually call it a night.

Friday

Not really planning on doing much this night. I'm massively run down from all these nights out. I'm throwing a party saturday night with my roommates, so I send a bunch of texts out to the American girls from wednesday. C responds - "hey, I'll be there! So sorry about last night, I fell asleep and lost track of time!" I figure this is bullshit, but whatever. I say no worries, tease her that she missed out on a great time, blahblahblah. She asks me what I'm doing tonight, I say not a whole lot. I was hoping to trsansition this to inviting her over to watch some movies, but she pre-empts me and invites me out for drinks with her and her roommates. I show up at the bar and all the other American girls are there as well. Great, I'll just continue to build a good rapport with this group. C shows up with her two british roommates, and we all hang around the pub for a bit until someone suggests we go to some dance club. We head there eventually, and I've still got a bit of an eye to escalate with C, but the night had other plans. Most notably would be C's roommates, a cute british girl, throwing herself at me. She's cute and I'm going with it.

Now, british roommate number 2 - substantially less attractive - and American girl 3 - one of the larger, I have a long term boyfriend and thus nobody is getting laid tonight types - are seemingly out to ruin everyone's fun. I'm flirting with C, when british girl #2 brings cute british roommate over to me to talk. C goes off and ends up with a massively chodey British guy. In a way, this is the first cockblock that can be traced to the actions of british girl #2.

Now, I'm flirting heavily with the cute british girl. Getting really close, touching legs, teasing, and the like. I'm in control of this, and should be an easy escalation.

Until B2 corners me and tells me that the cute brit has a boyfriend.

Now, I may take some flak for this from some of you, but its not necessarily my problem if a girl wants to escalate outside of her relationship. I pacify B2 by telling her that I get waht she's saying and not to worry. CCute british girl is still all over me and importantly, SHE is not saying anything about her boyfriend. So I keep escalating; this girl is really flirting with me and I'm reciprocating.

And despite my best attempts to keep her on my side, brit2 eventually drags the cute girl away to lecture her. Cockblock #2. In the course of this, I re-find C, who has some chodey british guy hanging off her and making out with her.

As I had kind of had a thing for her, this sort of sucked to watch and threw me immediately out of state for the rest of the night. I realize it was my own fault for not escalating in the first place, but that kind of thing sucks.

So now that we've lost the two british roommates, C is completely out of sorts trying to find them again so tha we can all head home. Poor chodey british dude has no clue what to do, and stands around not saying a word. At this point I just wanna go home and watch Its Always Sunny in Philadelphia, so I'm getting impatient. We eventually find the roommates who have totally gone off in another world; one where the boyfriend thing is much more prevalent. Brit2 must have lectured it into the cute brit, so whatever. Chodey guy is left on the side of the road with a number close, but the roommate situation totally blocked his cock as well. Cockblock #3. We head home, I make sure everyone is good with where they're at, and call it a night.

Conclusions

Since I got to this country I've opened up countless girls and got a tonne of numbers and such, but I haven't been closing. This is something I need to work on.

I made plans to watch the superbowl with the Norwegian girl, but I'm considering inviting her to our party tonight. Its feeling at times like I have too many options, and that I'm not focusing myself on any of the girls. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this?

Other than that, please chime in with any advice or response to this. This is really just to help me sort things out and see where I could improve in these types of situations!