Frame keeps shifting

nestleyquik · 2013-12-12T01:24:41+00:00

Knowing your own unique identity is STEP 1. Know exactly where you stand on issues. And be consistent in your beliefs. If you let yourself be influenced by other people all the time, then no one will know who YOU really are, even yourself.

Disagreement is PERFECTLY FINE. Don't be afraid to speak your mind on any particular issue, especially when you don't see things the same way as someone else. Don't be provocative when you express dissent, you don't want an argument or a fight. But don't be a pussy and let your belief system crumble whenever you're put under pressure.

I stumbled across this quote a while ago, and I still hold it in very high standing with regards to self-identity and being dominant with women:

Would you still believe something, even if you were the only one who believed in it?

Ask yourself that question on a daily basis about everything you believe. When you can answer it with a consistent and emphatic "YES!" then you know you've reached your goal.

JeffroTk · 2013-12-11T22:45:46+00:00

You don't seem strong enough in your identity. You're reacting to other people and there is no quick fix. Until you develop your own values, what you consider important, and start projecting those regardless of outside influence you will continue to have the problem you described.

It's extremely common, especially among people who are "people pleasers" and it's part of your social conditioning. Absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and has the simple fix of acting out of your own intentions and not for anyone else (notice how I said simple fix, not easy). Before you do something think "Am I doing this for me, or to prove something to some other person." If you answer the latter, it is not something you should be doing. It is not about never doing anything for anyone, but when you do it's because you want to

Title	Frame keeps shifting
Author	restlessmonk
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	December 11, 2013 5:05 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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