Frustration level reaching all-time high

Spacedust_ · 2015-08-05T02:07:01+00:00

You are too harsh on yourself, chill out , this happens to a lot of people including myself. I am good at night game and I am really good at online game but for some reason all the n-closes I get from daygame turns out as flakes. This was frustrating for me, all the effort I put, and thinking all the good interactions I cant believe none of 40 something women didnt reply my texts that they gave me on the street. Until an expert daygamer started to listen my convos and watched my body language, turns out I had a lot of blind spots that I couldn't pinpoint myself. Like smiling while teasing, building too much rapport, not looking them in the eye while talking, not pushing all the way thru but rather leaving after getting their numbers etc.... So this happens other people too, try to stop worrying.

First lets start with Tinder, it is just a software algorithm that decides to show certain peoples profile on top and doesnt show other people's profiles. If it doesnt work for you just move on, sounds like you are attracting girls and making out with girls so you are not ugly.

Everyone has up and downs, this is life. Dont give up your powers, but try to learn from your mistakes.

Sounds like you are repeating a pattern, first try to push your interactions further , like same night lays, dont take phone numbers. Since I have been doing this my lay count increased, hit or miss but I dont take phone numbers at night usually.

Maybe you are not building enough rapport, maybe you are not trying to connect with them, finding what they are passionate about, maybe when they go back home they think who was that guy, I dont know anything about him.

Just try to spot your weaknesses and work on them, be patient. The harder you try the more you will sound needy and it is turn them off, try to get help from your wings and isolate your target and make sure you are connected with her in deep levels

tarlack · 2015-08-05T02:15:50+00:00

I think you need to look at communicating better. The thing that gives me this idea is you had a activity and a time you just needed to say yes, this place 12pm and you would be on a date. You give it to the next day and say plans for today??

I am also going to say look at quality of quantity, getting numbers is one thing but making out with four girls in one bar in a night is bad play. The conversation once she got back to her friend group is always "You know he made out with 3 other people, you don't need that player"

Look at adding value also, be interesting.. Smooth lines are good but it is better to have a girl want nothing more then to talking to you more.

Vadriel · 2015-08-05T02:35:35+00:00

The girl went out of her way multiple times to try and make plans with you, not only at the bar, but via text later after she asked YOU for your number. You were obviously doing something right, but you didn't commit, and when you did finally respond to her text a day later it was with a weak "Plans today?" instead of with a definitive plan for action.

Were you playing hard to get or something? Why didn't you just say "Fuck yes we should totally hang out tomorrow." She probably woke up the next morning feeling like she put herself out there too aggressively and felt embarrassed that you didn't reciprocate.

Yalc_ · 2015-08-05T03:36:08+00:00

Where were you going to college in the south-east? Just curious.

hqlf · 2015-08-05T14:26:54+00:00

you paid your phone bill?

Mr-Prometheus · 2015-08-05T16:06:22+00:00

I bet there is another guy who thinks has the opposite problem. He can go out on many dates and can't get to makeout. I would rather to makeout, get bjs and get laid. I never date actually my dates are to take some drinks or do something I find interesting and the girl follows. I am currently in a relationship with a 7/10 which treats me like a god.

iliketurtlesdurr · 2015-08-05T06:31:35+00:00

honestly bro... meeting girls at bars and clubs ... you gotta make it happen that night. You can have the most solid interaction ever, but if you let them leave, they're not going to text you back. Case in point, fingered a girl in the bathroom made her come, she was into bdsm, called me daddy, said she wanted my babies if we ever fucked, but hasn't texted me back.

there's also the very real possibility that you are coming on a bit too strong. Might be old wisdom, but girls need 3-7 hours of "comfort". If you are pushing too hard on the kino before they are comfortable with sex, they're going to feel like a slut meeting up with you again, because it's like "oh, I wonder what we're going to do if we meet up at his place". they need plausible deniability and comfort until you actually bring them to the sex location. don't sexual kino too hard until you can go the entire way.

Title	Frustration level reaching all-time high
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Upvotes	25
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Date	August 4, 2015 11:55 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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