I've been approaching women much more confidently the past few months and have been getting a lot of numbers. While most have ended in flakes, I have gotten quite a few dates as well. My typical date is for "coffee." I tell the girl to swing by my place and pick me up before we head over to the coffee shop across the street from my apartment. When she gets here I invite her in and suggest I save us both some money by just making coffee here, and boom, apartment hangout instead of coffee shop. For girls who seem more interested I do a "drinks and music" night hangout at my place.

I am good in conversation with humor and playful energy, so we have fun talking for about 30-40 minutes and then I'll usually make a move for the kiss and we'll be making out. I try to use my hands to heighten her arousal while we're kissing: touching her back and stomach under her shirt, slight pulling of hair on back of neck, inside thigh touching, etc. But then there comes a point, where idk if I'm doing something wrong, but it seems her logical mind kicks in and she remembers she's on a first date and she slows down and becomes less receptive. I'll usually say that's fine, I understand, etc and continue with conversation before trying again once I have her laughing again.

This process hasn't resulted in first date lays for me and it usually makes the girl reluctant to meet with me again, because she knows it will most likely end up in sex, no matter how I frame the hangout, coffee, movie, drinks & music, whatever.

I'd appreciate any advice, perspective, or comments, thanks.

EDIT: "Date" or "hang out" makes more sense than "meet" in the title. I'm not making out with these girls the first time I "meet" them, lol.