getting past the first date

Life-Income2986 · 2025-06-22T20:39:48+00:00

First dates are vibe checks. They're checking to see if you get along. You haven't been.

I don't know what's causing it. I don't think it's any of the things you listed though it's really weird you haven't checked out any of the media in the country you're in now especially when it's pretty much THE polite date topic. But I don't think it's that.

I don't know what the answer is for you since I wasn't there, but however you do it you need to make your date feel positively and assume that there's more good vibes to be had if they keep hanging out with you.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-06-23T02:31:47+00:00

Keep grinding. You're probably on a bad run of dates with shallow women. It might be better for you to just cold approach in person to get instant feedback.

COMPEWTER_adminisp · 2025-06-24T00:59:58+00:00

use the chat only for logistics, don't flirt or any of that stuff over text do that in person, 99% of the times when women just don't give you a second date is because either you didn't for it, you were too scared to escalate, you didn't kiss her, unless she is really into she might give you a second date, but dude women have too many options.

remember you open > demonstrate value > create an emotional connection > create a physical connection

you made a mistake along the way, its more complex Than that but whatever, keep trying read up more books, tools and routines that could help you in the fiel during the date,

you are doing better that some people on this sub tbh, go out every day and keep practicing, and don't just get leads from online dating talk to every woman that you have a the chance out there.

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-06-23T03:38:49+00:00

Must admit it's a bit sad how little traction this post has gotten and it's likely because you said you're Indian right off the bat. Guessing the vast majority of dudes on this sub are white so it's very hard for them to relate or they can't give any constructive advice because they just read that and assume the reason you're not getting any action is because you're Indian.

As an Indian guy myself but raised in America, I understand where you're coming from but I gotta be straight with you bro. It's almost entirely because of your accent and cultural differences. These chicks are expecting you to be like me - a "normal" American guy who just happens to be brown but talks and acts exactly like any white guy they've ever met.

When you're not white white and you're dating white chicks you're almost definitely one of the first non-white guys they've dated so anything you do or say is going to be so foreign to them.

Trust me it's hard enough not literally being white and not having a white guy name even through everything else is the same from their perspective over those 2 hours of chatting. Not being the default is a lot to overcome.

My point is you need to actually start doing cold approachea and meeting chicks in person. This way you'll actually have a much better chance of getting them in bed or past a first date if they actually know who you are before meeting them. The accent and you not actually being American is throwing them off substantially. They're feeling cstfished. The Indian accent is a huge turnoff for the vast majority of white women in America.

Feel free to DM if you want to chat in more detail.

Title	getting past the first date
Author	No-Buy7459
Upvotes	5
Comments	5
Date	June 22, 2025 6:29 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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