I 33M went on a first date with a 32F last night. went really well, hit two spots for drinks, and then got ice cream after, kissed a few times, held hands, etc.

At the end of the night I said "I had a lot of fun, we should do this again." she said, "me too, I'd like that."

She said she's totally wide open this week and weekend. I said cool, I'll text you and we'll figure out a plan.

I really like her and want to escalate to get her back to my place but I don't also want to risk pushing her away with fuckboi behavior. She actually kinda expects me to be fuckboi-ish cuz we initially started chatting on Hinge on Valentine's Day at like 8pm and I first suggested we just meet up that night which she declined but made a comment about during our first date.

A few important other pieces of info:

  • she is kinda a fancy girl with a serious job and probably big money expectations. I'm from that same world but currently unemployed so not trying to ball out for dinner or whatever.

  • she's currently extending dry January but is "California sober" so down for weed/mushrooms. I feel like it's so much harder to escalate with a girl totally sober so am thinking about what are some good activities that would be amplified by edibles/mushroom micro-dose?

  • She's from the northeast and lived in NYC before moving where I live in a large Sunbelt city (Dallas, Houston, Charlotte, Tampa, etc). I've noticed northeastern women are initially a bit more closed off, but once you crack them they can be very open and feminine and sweet. Just not trying to rush into something and ruin my chance cuz I'm used to more Southern women that are more comfortable with physical touch.

Currently thinking of maybe like an afternoon/evening thing. Maybe microdose for a museum and then if it's going well have like a more low-key chill dinner at a cheap/fun spot and then back to mine if it's going really well?