Greatest Seddit failure since reading this sub. Lessons learned included.

I am extremely disapointed with myself Seddit. I went to the gas station near my house on my way to pick up dinner and grabbed a drink. While approaching the two lines for the register, I noticed this gorgeous, gorgeous, did I say gorgeous girl? She was either looking or glancing over at me. I walked up, smiled, and said "Hi". So far so good. She smiled and said Hi back. I got in line and she asked me a question about my shirt from a college bar where I went to college. Turns out we went to the same school, she graduated 2 years ahead of me.

While in line we talked about Greek involvement, jobs, degrees, etc. It was a brief conversations all things considered. So she was ahead of me and checked out before me. Said "It was nice meeting you and walked out of the store". Problem was I never got her name and never gave her mine. I only had a damn soda I could have left the line or threw the money at the cashier and walked her out. I remember thinking there's people in line and these workers done want to see me hit on this girl and I doubt she wants me to hit on her.

Looking back on it SHE initiated the conversation with me and screw everyone else. I felt good, looked good, but I didn't want to engage her in the situation. I'll probably never see her again but on that same notion I won't see anyone else in that gas station again so why should I care about the rest of them. I should have jumped on the opening, gotten her name and number and tried to fucking go out with her tonight or tomorrow. I AM FURIOUS WITH MYSELF. But live and learn fellow sedditors.

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Field Report 9.12.14 Met Sarah on OkCupid. Tall blonde, very attractive.

Me: At you’ve got a better smile than the Eiffel Tower.

Her: well thangs, but she does have whole French mystique thing going forher.

Me: Haha, you’re right maybe I should head to Paris and ask her out. You think she’ll say yes?

Her: probably I hear she gets around.

Me: Haha, I’ve never heard of her leaving Paris. So I guess you’re my only option…perhaps she can third wheel for us sometime?

Her: sorry you have to settle for me :/ I can speak in a French accent if that helps?

Me: I think that’ll do, and you’ll also have to let me take you out. That’s the only way I’ll settle ;) Deal?

Her: deal ###-###-####

/**** Commentary****/ Good opener. She’s six feet tall, so my thinking was that by making light of her height she would be less self-conscious about her height (if she was self-conscious at all). Later, it didn’t seem to be an issue, so it is difficult to tell if this strategy worked because there is no way to split test it without the line.

The banter too was rather clever. Because were able to stay on the same thread about the Eiffel Tower throughout the approach, it strengthened the approach and made it somewhat less direct. The second, “Haha” was unnecessary. /*End Commentary*/

I called her a night or two later. She said that it was very bold of me to call. I diffused the reproach somewhat, but can’t remember what I said…we chatted some more about who we were, where we come from. I suggested a few possible dates. I asked her about an acting class for her French accent as a possible idea; she said that was rather “aggressive,” so I teased her about her word choice, “bold” & “aggressive.” That I had to go, but I had a pretty good idea of what she was all about, and that we could meet up for a drink at a local bar. She laughed, we joked about categorizing people and what categories we fall into. By the end of the call we were giggling.

/*Commentary/ So far, so good. While because the conversation moves so quickly, the precariousness of conversation can lead to mistakes. Moreover state control can be difficult to maintain if one’s inner game is not on point. /End Commentary*/

I deleted the texts, otherwise I’d report them. It went something like:

Me: hey hey, hope your thing went well tonight. I should be done with things around 8. Let’s meet up 9ish?

Her: 9 sounds great.

That day Me: So let’s meet at local bar. Unless you’re feeling old fashioned.

Her: Sure thing, but can it be 9:30?

Me: Sure, but you’ll have to buy the first round.

Her: Deal

We met up. She ran into some friends already there, and was chatting them up. She said, “We can hang out in there group, or we can be alone.” I said, “I don’t mind.” She said she’d already grabbed her drink and pointed to it. I said, “I’ll go grab one.” I walked around the bar and go mine. I came back there was a purse on the seat next to her, so I sat next to her friends. They were all like, “Nooo!” I said, “she didn’t offer to move it!” I think this humored everyone, then she moved her purse.

I sat next to her. It was clear it was just going to be me and her. She made heavy leg Kino. We joked around for a bit about making out and whatnot. I actually had no material; I just didn’t have much to talk about and am kind of bored by interview-esque questioning. Here’s where shit just goes awry. I admit I’m nervous. Not because I was nervous but because it seemed like something better to say than not giving a fuck. Because, I truly just wanted to get laid on a regular basis. This tactic totally worked against me and it continued on in interview fashion. We kept droning on in Q&A format for a while. It wasn’t really going anywhere. At one point she mentioned that she had to be up early and she wouldn’t be staying out late. I, too, didn’t want to be out late. We concluded, hugged outside the door. She said she had to go in to the restroom. I imagine she went to hang out with her friends.

/*Commentary/ I need to get better at building rapport indirectly. And it’s not that I’m unable to recall the details of our conversation, I’m just so pained by the patheticness of them that I don’t want to write them. I had an opportunity to build more report when she mentioned her love of wiener dogs. Didn’t. This was a situation where the lay was practically in my hands. I just didn’t practice report building well enough to achieve a level of comfort. Moreover, I didn’t move fast enough. /End Commentary*/

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Title	Greatest Seddit failure since reading this sub. Lessons learned included.
Author	magnumstg16
Upvotes	16
Comments	6
Date	September 13, 2014 12:45 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2g92hl/greatest_seddit_failure_since_reading_this_sub/
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