Do you know that the reason why you have anxiety is because you're stuck in your head? There are a few things going on in your head:

  • You're thinking about bad past experiences
  • You're thinking about something bad that you THINK could happen in the future
  • You have a bad mental self-image and low self-esteem

There may be a ton of things going on but these are the usual suspects that kills your confidence.

I mentioned standing meditation before, but this one will talk about the flow of energy. When you're anxious, you can feel it certain parts in your body. Do you notice that when you're confident and feeling good you don't feel these things? Or if you do feel these things, it's not to the point it makes you not take needed action.

Where do you feel your anxiety?

  • Do you feel it in your head? Does this trigger negative thoughts about what could go wrong, which makes you not take action?
  • Do you feel it in your throat or neck? Does you have that "gulp" feeling or a tightness in your neck?
  • Do you feel it in your chest? Does your heart beat really fast or you just have that vulnerable feeling in your chest?
  • Do you feel it in your stomach? Is there a pit in your stomach or do you feel like you have to use the bathroom?
  • Do you feel it in your anus (no homo for the straight men reading this)? Do you clinch your sphincter or butt checks because you feel uptight?

The goal to having superior confidence is:

  • A clear mind. You know what you want and go for it with minimal to no resistance coming from yourself
  • You don't have the nervous energy. If you do, you know how to contain it really well. You know how to hold eye contact and not fidget or give off those signs of being nervous... even though you are.
  • You focus on the present moment. You're not creating scenarios in your mind.

Here's what you do:

Go to a room where you cannot be distracted for at least 10 minutes. Stand up with your knees slightly bent. Relax your upper body. Keep your back straight but relaxed. All the weight should rest on your legs. Don't tense your leg muscles, but allow the weight of your body to go straight down to the floor.

Breathe from your gut. Focus on your breathing. Feel where the anxiety is coming from. You want that anxious energy to flow down and out of your body. You can actually feel it flow down to your body if you're doing it right. The purpose is to feel, not think. So don't think "Am I doing it right?", but if you feel the anxiety in your chest, do you feel it flow down to your stomach, to your genitals, then exit your body from your genitals (this does not mean pee or cum).

Do this exercise for 10 minutes after you wake up and 10 minutes before you go to bed

The purpose of this exercise it to get you out of your head and into your body. Thoughts lead to anxiety. This either happens consciously or subconsciously. By doing this exercise, you want your body to handle anxiety by eliminating it from the body whenever it pops up. When you become good at this, you'll be able to do this on-the-fly without meditation (but you still want to continue meditating).

You may be in a situation where you want to talk to a girl.

Be clear on what you want (You want to talk to this girl with no hesitation or resistance coming from you)

Focus on your breathing. As Bruce Lee said, "Don't think... feel." If you feel anxiety coming from a certain part of your body, push that energy all the way down to your body and let it exit out of your genitals. Think of yourself as a tree or a tripod (2 legs and genitals) firmly rooted into the ground (think of the term "standing your ground" when it comes to dealing with adversity). You are firm and solid. You are strong. When you give off this energy, the woman will feel more attracted to you. If you think you're ugly, your energy will bypass your looks and she'll feel your energy, while being aware that you're not the best-looking guy, but possibly the most manliest guy she's ever encounter. Manliness is a major turn or for MOST women. This is why you'll see a lot of fat, outta shape men who are married with children. They may not be the best looking, but they may be very masculine and grounded.

If you're reading books and watching videos on how to attract women, you have the knowledge, the only thing holding you back is not taking action because you have a lot of anxious energy stored in your body that needs to be eliminated. Do this and watch how easy it becomes attracting women.