Seddit is filled with so many tips and tricks on how to seduce and attract women that you miss what will truly attract a woman, confidence. I’m not just talking about confidence that you’ve got balls to go up to approach her, I’m talking self-esteem. Let’s be honest, everyone could use some more self-esteem. There is no such thing as too much of it. Hate cocky people? Probably because they’re actually good at what they’re cocky about. What labels cocky as a bad attribute is being verbal to others about the skill. But even then, why do others hate on others confidence? We live in a society where people are embarrassed to talk up about themselves, in fear they’ll be labeled such word. I want to let everyone in the Seddit community know that it is alright to think highly of yourself.

A man with self-worth is not needy. He does not care what others think of him, only cares what he thinks of himself. He thinks of himself as a prize and shows it by NOT trying to be interesting, but interested. A man with self-worth does not get jealous because he knows he is not in competition. A man with self-worth is not scared to show his personality. He is eager to show women who he truly is, rather than figure out who that women wants you to be. He does not hide his emotions of happiness, sadness, anger, but expresses it because he is human too. Women want a man with self-worth. Self-worth comes from self-esteem. You can try all the mind games you want to attract women, but without loving yourself first, how do you expect someone else to?

If you chose to try these next tips on increasing self-confidence, you WILL see results. The results will help substantially with your success with women; though you may find yourself not caring as much to attract women. You will have self-love. Since this sub is focused on female attraction, I will focus on that subject. Do note, this technique can be applied to any skill you wish to have, not just confidence. I will explain why it works later on.

Why We Lack Confidence:

Our subconscious mind is where our confidence is stored. How we think is a result of information stored in our subconscious. The subconscious makes up who we truly are. Fortunately/Unfortunately, who we are is made up by others input they give us. Growing up in a family who believes you’ll only get so far in life will cause you to think that way as well. Someone telling you you’re ugly everyday will result in thinking you’re ugly. Being around individuals using harsh language, overtime, will cause you too to use it. We cannot control what our subconscious is exposed to. Individuals who lack confidence are those who have been put down by others. Think about when you were a kid, did you care what anyone thought of you? What caused that to change? The answer is, the influence of others. Our minds are programed to think lowly of ourselves because when we are young, our developing minds are not strong enough to fight these negative affirmations others claim of us.

In order to build up more self-esteem we must be aware of our insecurities and reprogram our subconscious. To reprogram our subconscious, we must hear positive affirmations of assurances. In other words, we brainwash ourselves to be who we want to be.

How to Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind:

To have success in reprograming your subconscious, you must hear statements over and over again; therefore, you need to listen to an audio recording of affirmative statements. Look up on YouTube "Self Confidence Affirmations." Find a video between 5-10 minutes. You don't want it being too long because you should listen to this recording every night before bed. Listening to it in the morning as well will have faster results.

To have a stronger impact on your subconscious, I recommend instead of searching for an audio, record yourself saying the affirmations. Find at least 50 affirmations online (most YouTube videos will have them in the description) and leave a 3 second pause between each statement. Playing soft music in the background of your recording can be beneficial as well to help you relax. Use positive “I” statements and avoid using words like “not" and "don't" when coming up with personal affirmations. Listen to the recording for 30 days. If consistent, I promise you will begin to see differences in your attitude within the first week.

Example statements: I am confident I love the way I am I am not bound by the past, I choose to create a new future I accept and appreciate myself exactly as I am I am assertive I speak my mind without hesitation

Work on yourself and you will be successful with women

Edit: In sort words: tell yourself over and over again you are good with women, you will then believe you are good with women, causing you to have the confidence to be good with women.