Having difficulty coming up with stories that display my best qualities/self

NapalmOverdos3 · 2016-06-05T03:24:06+00:00

I talk about my biggest failures and laugh them off. Anything that has gone wrong can be funny if you tell it right.

Talk about something that was going great to start, then shit hit the fan, and make it a joke. Be funny, women love that above all else from my experience in game. Women want a guy who can make them laugh above all else.

Psychocist · 2016-06-05T18:47:14+00:00

Storytelling is an indispensable skill. I struggle with it but have noticed I get better responses when I have a couple of great stories to tell.

Reach into your distant past. You must have stories from your childhood. Pull them out and dress them up.

That's the second part - someone who knows how to tell a story can make shopping for shoes sound interesting. It's all how you decorate the story.

Be more mindful when you're doing things so you notice how these experiences are affecting you, how they make you think/feel, look for unique angles, be creative in your head.

I started rock climbing and noticed the day after I couldn't even clench my fists my grip was that useless. Spin it. Now I say I couldn't lift a cup to my face. My mate who went with me said he couldn't take the handbrake off his car. This creates all kinds of opportunities to branch off into fun conversations and, more importantly, spontaneously build that experience/story. For example, I couldn't lift a cup to my face - I'm a brit and I like my tea - I was withdrawing for two days and ____ etc etc.

Interpret your experiences in a novel way. One of your jobs as a [good] storyteller is to create vivid imagery in the other person's mind. Work on that for now.

Grayson16 · 2016-06-05T02:31:03+00:00

Just think of something funny that happened or a funny story you have they don't have to be for the purpose of showing you off. If you can make her laugh you have displayed one of your best qualities.

TheXXL · 2016-06-05T10:57:52+00:00

When you start to tell stories about how cool you are, you will be perceived as being needy, bragging. The best way to tell a story is to make the point not about yourself achieving something cool, or something cool you are doing, but to convey a pointe.

For instance i have a close female friend who tells stories about things she experienced, while on a party or something, and she has the talent of sucking people right into it by displaying strong body language, she uses her hands to make gestures, her raising her voice to point out her feelings int tha story, overall using her whole body to tell that story. This is key. For instance i like to sometimes tell the story how i failed in picking up a hint by a girl i opened in a bar, she was at first pretty cold, then when i left her, she came back for, we talked and i had one too many drinks, she was with her sister and that sister was looking on her phone all the tim, and i asked about what she was doing. The girl told me that she was looking for her boyfriend. So i aske her where´s hers., to which she looked me straight in the eye and said "i am still looking for him" i didn´t get the hint, and asked her if he was around here someway, to which she replied again, she was still looking for him.

This is where the part comes where i start to use my body language, by pointing out with a hand gesture how i was starting to process that information, already too drunk, needing what felt like hours to understand, staring at her, my brain working like cog wheels, and then, understanding it by making an exaggerated facial expression of understanding and before i can say anything, i hear a deep voice coming from my right side, asking me "who are you?"

I then turn my head slowly, like in a horror movie, only to find there is someone really tall, look up very slow and very high, smile like in fear to make the point that there was a guy that was wayyy taller than me, looking down on me like he want´s to kill me, only to answer: "uhm... i´m... uhm... gone..."

I close that story with how this guy was her sisters boyfriend, and after i went away, trying to find my cool, i only saw the three of them flee the bar in a real hurry. Obviously people hang on my lips when i tell that story, they feel with me, they laugh with me. And all that only because i use exaggerating body gestures and body language. This is the secret of good story telling, no matter what the story is about.

Title	Having difficulty coming up with stories that display my best qualities/self
Author	mynameiswut
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	June 5, 2016 1:53 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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