Having stuff to talk about?

bcktth · 2012-08-28T21:41:04+00:00

I struggle with. Not just with strangers but with my friends too. I don't have the lifestyle I want to, I'm not exactly so happy with myself, I don't have many experiences and I don't understand the same humor that everyone else does

For starters, quit the mental masturbation of you, you, you.

Want to know something mind blowing? Wither you think you can or can't do something, you're going to convince yourself that you're right. Sure, we've all done that to ourselves but what seperates you from other people is that you see a sticking point and think "Damn, I don't have X, Y, and Z to get A, B, and C. FML!" while someone else may go "Damn, I don't have X, Y, and Z, better look into it and see how I can change that through doing this and that."

You have the answers available to you be it within yourself, the internet, or the community. But kicking and screaming why certain things haven't happened is toxic to the body and mind. Knock the negative attitude down and come in with a clear mind while being the present, thinking what you can do now as opposed to why you haven't done something before in the past or why you can't do something right in the near future.

Cheers!

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-08-28T22:26:36+00:00

To be interesting, be interested. Ask people about what they are interested, and they will be interested in talking to you. Listen to what they're saying, instead of thinking of what you're going to say next.

thewtfzone · 2012-08-28T20:34:43+00:00

Sounds like you are an AFC. This is okay, because you can become better than an AFC. Start first by reading the information in the sidebar, especially the stuff about giving value.

If you don't like something about yourself, change it. Only you can make you happy, no one else can do it for you, realize this and put it in action and I guarantee you see improvements.

nehifish · 2012-08-28T22:31:12+00:00

Listening is key. If you don't have anything to say in your socialcircle, just talk about the things your friends talk about. If they're talking about movies, bring up a movie you like or what ever. Just take part and listen and everything flow naturally.

About you not being interesting... If you think you arn't interesting ofcourse you wont be. Just think about stuff you like to do, or just think of things that might interest you and try them out. I mean a couple of months ago I were in the same position. But then a friend of mine just talked about making drinks etc, which actually got me on a track to become a bartender and now here I am. A fully fledged bartender who has a passion for it.

Title	Having stuff to talk about?
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Upvotes	10
Comments	15
Date	August 28, 2012 8:20 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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