Having trouble staying confident

lonewolf-chicago · 2017-01-11T21:05:42+00:00

One of the ways to build and keep confidence is to list out all your accomplishments. Many people do this by way of their professional resume.

I do this by way of resume and some personal achievements.

List them in detail, what the circumstances were, what you did, what the result was after you took action.

For example:

I ran 6 half marathons and a 10 miler (one of them I didn't train for)
Ran the Army 10 miler with 1:14:00 min finish time
Won a state kickboxing title and multiple karate and tae kwon do tournaments
Taught boxing for 4 years (3/4 of my fighters won their fights)
I completed the 1,000 day challenge (working out for 1,000 days in a row)
I benched 330 lbs on two difference occasions, 4 years apart
I won best PT (physical training) score in the Army with a score of 314 out of a possible 300 (extra points for maxing out every category), and later scored a 324 just before my honorable discharge.
My fastest mile was 5 min 14 seconds at age 25.

Do you think when I typed that and read it and remind myself that I'm a physical specimen or that I'm a fat lazy bastard? Exactly.

I forget that I've done all that unless I remind myself, list it, read it... My confidence is immediately boosted.

When asked Are you good with transition? My initial answer is no, not really.

I survived the death of my parents when I was 11
Moved to a different state, 4 different schools in 3 years... one of them was predominately black students
Went to college away from "home."
Entered the military moved to a different state, made all new friends and performed well
Moved to a city I never lived in before for two years and made friends there.
Owned my own companies and had to give presentations to potential new clients
Worked at 9 different companies, did well and received bonuses

When I remember that I survived and exceeded in different environments, I have confidence.

Most people are not used to reviewing their life in that way, so they forget what magnanimous people they are.

Try it.

pianobrah · 2017-01-11T19:44:36+00:00

Confidence has to genuinely exist within you, it's not something that you can fake. Take actions everyday that will help you be a better person. After you've been doing this for a while you'll start building momentum and the confidence will come naturally.

Go to the gym, eat a healthy diet, dress well, read, crush it everyday at work or school, smile and start conversations, get a good night's sleep, etc. Do these things everyday. Come back in two months are you will feel like a different person.

_ReyMonroe_ · 2017-01-11T21:01:28+00:00

Yeah confidence isnt something you can't fake. So you have to build it. by doing your life like PIANOBRAH said and adding on to that. Do things your scared of and by that I mean the good risks such as approaching new people. taking risks with your money in a good way (Investment). It should help

Title	Having trouble staying confident
Author	henker220
Upvotes	2
Comments	3
Date	January 11, 2017 7:38 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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