height

vozmozhnost · 2021-03-06T21:25:26+00:00

People’s anecdotes and generalizations tend to skew towards the fringes on this topic because we tend to surround ourselves with like-minded people.

Studies seem to suggest that only about 50% of women would only date men taller than them no matter what. The majority of the remainder want a guy at least the same height or not much shorter, and a very small minority want shorter men specifically.

Women in general are socially conditioned to seek safety and comfort in men because our society makes them feel vulnerable, so it seems to makes sense many would prefer a taller guy. In the modern world, a woman’s SO is by far the most likely person to commit violence against her or murder her, so this way of thinking that feels very natural probably makes them less safe in reality. Then again, feeling safe could be more important to them than their statistical risk profile. Fair enough.

Having a tall bf is also a picture perfect status symbol for some, regardless of whether they want to feel safe. They tend to want men who are not just taller than them but tall relative to other available men. To these people, being with a guy of even average height can seem like “settling” or having low standards. Luckily this is also a very small minority of women.

The moral of the story is that while height is a major factor for many women, there are also many women for whom it’s probably not going to be an issue unless the guy makes it an issue.

khan114936 · 2021-03-06T21:06:25+00:00

lol, yeah. They care about height. What planet are you from?

feenchbarmaid0024 · 2021-03-06T23:16:15+00:00

Im 5'7 and couldn't give a rats arse if any shallow female thinks im not tall enough.

Linkinsuave · 2021-03-06T20:53:14+00:00

I truly truly do not think most women care much about height.

They do, but won't admit it out of fear of appearing shallow. That said, absolutely nothing wrong with having the preference. As guys, we have preferences for boob/butt size and weight, so it would be hypocritical to bash women for wanting a certain height.

mxablev2 · 2021-03-07T04:31:39+00:00

I appreciate your positive perspective and it does feel nice to hear that all women arent as concerned about height. Im 5'4 and the hard truth is that height matters to some women A lot , at least in my experiences. I learned that at an early age, mostly from school. I've had a good amount of relationships and height has been the topic in all of them. Didn't matter if they were taller or shorter than me. I never cared about being short lol, but its like the first thing people always say about me. My most recent ex would bring up height constantly. One of the last things she said to me was that I was the "right" guy for her in every way, its just my height. Cannot make this shit up lol. Now obviously there could be more as to why she broke up with me but thats what I was told. It just seems weird that height is such a big topic. Believe me, women will make that shit known.

timsmth2022 · 2021-03-07T07:30:59+00:00

As a 6’3 male this is bullshit in my opinion. This is the same thing as if you ask 100 men on camera if they would date a obese women. Maybe 70% of them say yes on camera? But we all know only 30% would say yes off the camera. I’m sorry I just do not believe women don’t care, and I wish they did. I have never ever ever ever ever advertised my height online. Obviously in real life I can not hide my height. But on the internet I don’t tell anyone unless they specifically ask. I’m personally not a fan of all the lying going in society as the fear of being cancelled. Most women want a tall, shredded dude (only talking about physical features here). And most men want a beautiful women, with nice tits and nice ass, and that is just the facts.

Editing my comment to add this. In MY opinion, females on the taller side like yourself are less concerned about height. As your selection pool of men that are taller than you is quite small. I think the height Preferences by females come from the shorter side of women. Which in a way is interesting to ME. I dated a girl that was 5’3 a couple years ago, it was very weird for me, I felt like I was holding hands with my niece (honestly). It gets to a point that if I’m just that much taller than my partner it’s uncomfortable for me. I prefer taller women honestly, which is interesting because most men feel differently from what I gathered. God I’m sorry, I am drunk and added no value to this discussion.

NadjaYaDig · 2021-03-07T07:39:38+00:00

My boyfriend is a wee bit shorter than me, I have always been a high heel kind of girl when I go out and that hasn’t changed ; ) in fact I remember wearing high heels on our first date 8 months ago and when I answered the door abd saw that I was at least a good 5 inches taller than him I said “maybe I should put on my converse instead” he then said something along the lines of I insist you don’t because those heels look amazing. It’s all about the confidence of the fella

2021-03-07T01:05:16+00:00

I think that's a great mindset to have, as a female or male so I will applaud you for that op, whatever online reddit applause is worth.

Many good points have alread been brought up but I'll add to the convo just to put things in perspective.

Like said before, a good majority of women are looking for a man who's similar height or a bit taller. There's prob a good portion of women who actively seek taller men, someone who is 6ft and taller, however online studies suggest, that as these women get older, they tend to lower that standard of height. Why?

The U.S avg of men over 6 ft is i think around 15 percent of the population. Women (and men) begin to learn as they get older, that it is MUCH harder to find potential partners when limiting yourself to 15 percent of the population. Sure you might be able to find a 6ft guy, but is he attractive? Is he successfu? Do you share the same life values? Does he want kids? Is he religious? Political views? blah blah. The list goes on. Ppl begin to shorten their list of criteria for potential partners. This isnt seen as lowering of standards either. This is seen as honing in on whats really important to you.

Another point to add for my short kinds out there (I am 5.8 myself). Is that height is relative. 5.8 is tall in south america. 5.10 is short in the netherlands. 5.5 is avg in some parts of Asia. The world's a big place.

Finally theres actually been a study as well, on the habits of very successful men dating much taller women. (Tom Cruise, John Legend etc etc) Is dating a taller women slowly becoming seen as a proponent of success? Some ppl think yes, which has the reverse effects as well. Taller women are seen as more beautiful when with smaller men. Small study but its worth noting.

End of the day dating is about numbers, and the chances of you not meeting someone who will like you for you who you are in this day and age is low. But worrying about something as trivial as height, race or eye colour. Is stupid.

2021-03-06T22:43:53+00:00

If you are 5’9 height is NOT a factor to your success or lack of it

Title	height
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Date	March 6, 2021 8:38 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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