hopeless hard case newbie - communicating when you look young and beta as shit

billiam632 · 2018-05-10T19:40:41+00:00

I have posted a similar response on here countless times. I'll say it to you again because your video really drove home the biggest problem you have.

The biggest and only problem you have is that you are insecure about your "problems".

You're so hung up on your shortcomings that you're not allowing yourself to go out there and find success. You've quit the game before you even started. By saying you can't do this and can't do that and you're bad at this and that is making things difficult, you're just admitting defeat.

You're making shit up about the kind of person you are and claiming that those things are the reasons why you can't get laid. Your voice? The way you talk? Your baby face? All nonsense. The only thing holding you back is that you're afraid. You're afraid of women and you're afraid of how they might react to you. You're afraid to put yourself out there and get rejected.

I don't care if some random chick said that you've got a baby face. I don't care if someone said you sound too intelligent. I've got a friend who is complaining about how he looks like an old man at 24 and that's what's holding him back. I've got complaints that I sound too laid back and women won't like that. It's made up. Garbage.

Practice cold approach and never ever talk about your physical appearance ever again on this sub or to anyone you meet for the rest of your life. Same goes for your voice or whatever. Ugly dudes get laid. Baby faced dudes get laid. Intelligent guys get laid. Stupid guys get laid. Go out there and get laid already. Stop making excuses. Practice.

Cold approach 5 girls a day for the rest of your life and eventually you'll be swimming in pussy without any additional advice. No excuses.

lepsa007 · 2018-05-10T16:45:08+00:00

Wow! It is awesome that you made this video to share your thoughts. I feel I am in the same boat as you with the whole looks part. I am 20 but my face and body look like I am no older than 15. Being in college is especially hard because everyone else looks pretty mature compared to me, so in high-pressure social contexts like a house party or any sort of event, it is indeed hard to show to girls that you are more than just a kid.

As much as this is an insecurity for me, I have realized that the actual looks have not much to do with how things turn out in interactions. I realized that for a while I was shaping my behavior to what my mind told me ("you look too young", "they don't care what you think", etc) and therefore things didn't go well. But once I started separating my behavior from my insecurities, it turns out people don't care too much. Like, obviously looks have a first impression, but it is up to you to go beyond there are show that you are more than just a young looking face. Those who appreciate that are worth having in your life, those who don't... maybe not so much.

I hope this helps, and well, good luck!

BroUpJK · 2018-05-10T16:55:07+00:00

Yo Bro! I feel as if you're trying too hard man, ya gotta stop caring what people think of you, and do you. And trust me, it doesn't matter if you look young or old. It's about how much fun you're having and how you present yourself. Right now as you said you have a lot of self doubt. Like Jordan said "STOP IT" lol stop putting yourself down bro. Stop looking at the negatives in your life and look at the haves more than the have nots. Change up your style. Go out more, meet new people, and stop being so self conscious. Go on this site named meetups, find some events, go to some, and have fun at some of them and communicate. Don't worry what people think of you. What I do to get a bit more socially aware is put myself into different social situations and meet different people to see if I can click with them or not. Sometimes it goes great and you party and laugh with em, sometimes you'll hear "WHOS MANS IS THIS". Prioritize fulfilling life and improving yourself. Then when you got that confidence up, go pick up girls. You'll find a lot of then magnetically attracted to you when you find yourself

billiam632 · 2018-05-11T02:00:04+00:00

Buddy if you've got good game you'll have decades of pussy coming your way. That should be your one and only concern.

boodie_1961 · 2018-05-11T20:55:45+00:00

My twenties were the worst period of my life. Rejected, disappointed all the time. As soon as I got a job and money and started to gym everything changed for the better. Confidence comes with experience and experience = having gone through hardship, having made mistakes and suffered their consequences. Accept that some degree of suffering is part of life and the brain is there to find smart ways and workarounds to minimize the discomforts but there will be pain, inevitably.

affectionprojection · 2018-05-10T18:05:51+00:00

if u are downvoting, u cant handle the truth

Title	hopeless hard case newbie - communicating when you look young and beta as shit
Author	affectionprojection
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Date	May 10, 2018 4:13 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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