Me and this girl hit it off through mutual friends. Had a great first date, both definitely interested in each other. A little touchy after dinner on the way back to her place but nothing crazy. She texted me till ab 3am the next morning talking about our time together. Fast forward couple weeks she invites me last minute to go bowling with her best friend and besties BF. Nice meeting them had a great time collectively, her friend was pretty attractive as well. When she got in my car as I was driving, she began making out with me and for some reason I returned the favor as I kept driving lol. All good signs . She rode with me back to her place where her friend and bf followed to hang out. We drank and played cards for about an hour, probably 11 at this point. Everyone’s having a good time, we stopped playing and began mostly socializing.

This is where it gets funky- her best friend didn’t tell her bf to leave but kinda told him off? She was nice enough about it we’re all having a good time but she kinda just told him it’s late and she was going to crash with (girl I’m talking to). Me and him shake it up, seemed like a nice dude. At this point we’re chilling in her basement, said bf has left and I’m more of an introvert myself. I made some small talk while the girls were chilling on the couch, stilll being respectful w her friend there and what not. Well they both get up from watching tv (getting pretty tipsy/ but not sloppy) and both go to the basement bathroom. I think nothing of it, their girls whatever. Bout 5 minutes go by and they both come out in crop tops and pajama shorts…. Still having a great time. They invite me over to the couch saying don’t be shy (which I wasn’t just letting her and her friend do there thing). I join them on said couch watching Netflix. We continue to have a good time. Girl I’m talking to finally breaks it off and says we’re gonna go to her room to hang. It’s probably 1:30 At this point. Told her friend it was nice hanging out and followed girl I’m talking to upstairs. Going up the stairs behind her with virtually her entire ass in my face she turns to me and says “dont get any ideas”…. Its was lights out…. Couldn’t tell her facial expression. Me being the respectful dumbass I am, responded “I’m not, I’m watching you tho”. Okay well now that I’m typing all this out yeah i definitely fucked this one up. Hang in her room touchy touchy. She goes the the bathroom AGAIN….. comes back out with what I can only see to be an oversized shirt…. I see no pants. Confirmed 5 minutes later when she’s on top of me that there are no pants just underwear. Get this. Something fucking in me decided to bring up in the midst of all this what she was looking for. I thought we were hot and heavy but I took her literally when she said “don’t get any ideas”. Anyways things slow down in the bedroom once the topic came up and she mentioned lightly that she is looking for something meaningful with the right person but isn’t opposed to having fun. I jokingly said “Oh so I’m just your Saturday guy”, like a total dumbass. At the time I was truly fucking around to see how’d she respond, keep in mind only been talking a couple weeks and it’s 2nd date. So I’m kinda trying to get an idea of where she’s been and where she’s at. That question went over horribly fellas. Take it from me. I was just playing around thinking she’d tease back but every bit of foreplay done before that was ruined. She was full guard up, no more fun. She said “are you saying I’m a slut?” 100% serious face. We him hawed around for the next hour or so just talking down from the “hot topic” and I eventually headed home as she had work in the AM and it was late. But essentially all momentum from the entire night was killed.

This was a while back but we had some dates off and on until I got swamped with work.

Lesson I learned here fellas is; sometimes it is actually better to think with your little head than your actual head. We are way to logical and over think things. I told my 40yr old coworker this, We work closely and throughout the day he told me i would probably never have a single girl become that “forward” with me let alone possibly 2. He said if sex was Hollywood, they rolled out the red carpet. Somehow in the midst of all of this….. I still overthought and misread.

Grill me. And if you’re nice leave some advice plz.