How do I actually take action instead of telling myself 'next time'?

tetrona · 2016-04-03T13:34:20+00:00

Commit. You've got to commit.

Before you walk in make it your one and only mission. Everything else is secondary. Tackle it head on.

You've got this, you said it yourself.

SebastianCallow · 2016-04-03T14:01:05+00:00

Figure out what the worst case scenario is. Maybe it's that she'll think you're weird and maybe it's that it'll feel awkward walking in there again if she says no. Whatever it is just figure out what the worst case scenario is in your head, and then accept it! Accept it as a real possibility. You say it'll prob work out for the best and you're likely right, but there's always a chance that it won't and you should embrace that fully. Once you can fully embrace the worst case scenario you'll move fearlessly, without holding anything back, and you'll likely express yourself in a really powerful way. Be okay with the worst and you'll probably get the best! And most importantly, you'll take the action.

PartypooperXD · 2016-04-03T19:09:08+00:00

The only thing that works for me is to go braindead-mode :P Just approach without hearing what your brain says to you , trust me , it just finds excuses for you to be a coward . Just get in there approach , be yourself . If you get rejected you lose nothing , you gain experience though !

Big_TX · 2016-04-03T20:54:51+00:00

On a general level:

If You aren't talking to girls on the regular, it feels less natural, and you make this more significant in your head. And the more times you don't take action on it and the more time you think about it, the more resistance you will feel.

On the micro level:

Just do it. Give your self emotional leverage to get over it. If you start to bitch out think "well if I bitch out, then I'm a pussy. I have to do this or I'm a pussy. Do I really want to be a pussy? No. Ok I have to. I can't keep living my lifelike this. This is an unacceptable Hang up. I have do do this." Then you do it.

People wine and get these victim mentalities about approach anxiety. And make posts and what not. And talk about it a research it. And all you have to do is just so it. If you have too much restence then look at what type of life and person you will be if you don't plow through.

you should not be doing this mental game every time you approach. You should do it with enough frequency where you have momentum and don't need to do this.

Title	How do I actually take action instead of telling myself 'next time'?
Author	DrBalance
Upvotes	5
Comments	5
Date	April 3, 2016 9:54 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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you should not be doing this mental game every time you approach. You should do it with enough frequency where you have momentum and don't need to do this.