There are actually at least two chics I know that used to have crushes on me, but don’t seem to feel the same now. I know much of it has to do with me overthinking things - one big mistake I made (as far as I know) was acting like I wasn’t interested in them. I also had periods with both girls where I started developing irrational fears of them (I’m still getting out of those), overthinking everything I said around them, even though at one point I was extremely confident around them.

So now that I’m at this point where I’ve realized some of my mistakes, how do I approach winning them over again? Do I even try? Right now I’m at a stage where I’m focusing on myself instead trying to get a girl, but once I feel like I’m ready to get back out there, how can I go about that?

Edit: I think a big part of them growing out of their interest in me was the fact that beforehand I wasn’t interest in them, or I was at least indecisive. Then when I decided “yeah I’ll go for them” they were out of it (well at first for one of them it was feelings mutual, then eventually she fell out of it). Why do you guys speculate that is?