How do I escalate sexually without coming off as clingy?

CollusorReginae · 2015-02-27T03:33:44+00:00

By doing it out of your own desire, and without outcome dependence, and with an underlying dominance.

Physically, your touch doesn't become more intimate out of any logic or strategy. Your touch becomes more intimate because you want it to. You just feel a tension sexually in yourself, and you take the lead and touch or move her in a way that matches the sexual tension of the situation. My favorite move sitting on a couch is to take her legs and move them over mine. When I do this I'm not thinking "Here goes some escalation, hope this works." I just think she's hot, theres a vibe here, so I'm uncomfortable NOT being close to her. You've got to have that sense of entitlement.

Now verbal escalation comes in several forms. The form most likely to seem clingy or needy if done wrong is complimenting. So the key is to just sort of blurt out what's on your mind. Let the social etiquette of the environment, and the type of girl (outgoing vs. shy, and what not) be your filters to hold back. Overall however, just say what you think of her. Another key is a lack of outcome dependence. Compliments are just a declaration by you, not a way to earn her happiness or approval.

Prophet6 · 2015-02-27T13:26:45+00:00

Escalate with a healthy amount of eye contact as your foundation. Best to escalate, in a happy, jovial environment, so create the frame. Should always be escalating in small increments, starting from first few seconds, with pats on arms, hi fives, positioning, hugging and so on. Dont think of it as changing gears, it is more like a non verbal form of communication, going back and forth, overlayed ontop of your conversation. If she's not running away, then you're doing it right. Questions?

IpickupGrandmothers · 2015-02-27T13:44:13+00:00

Don't be clingy and you won't come across as clingy. If you remember to make sex about having fun, rather than seeking validation, then you won't be clingy and you won't come across as clingy.

doctorshade · 2015-02-27T04:40:23+00:00

good verbal intercourse leads to sexual intercourse.

you have to learn to talk to girls, make them laugh, let their guard down, get them to open up. the best thing you can do is be lighthearted and learn how to joke around so they start laughing. if they are having a good time they will start to touch you. and you can start to touch them. 20-40 touches means you will be able to kiss her at the right moment.

so, don't focus on the physical. focus on having a good time with her and the physical will follow.

cptmcclain · 2015-02-27T05:19:49+00:00

Because she is ether going to reject you or she is not going to. It is that simple. Who cares about the rest.

Title	How do I escalate sexually without coming off as clingy?
Author	AnalStorage
Upvotes	13
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Date	February 27, 2015 1:45 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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