How do I gain more confidence?

RandianHero · 2014-05-09T03:49:03+00:00

It's the same principle as any skill: you're not going to be confident when you first start out, but after practicing and getting the hang of it, you start to become more confident in your skills. You've already done this in some areas (i.e. video games, music, reading, etc.).

Find out what your problem areas are and work on them. If you've got social anxiety, force yourself to be in social situations until you're desensitized to it and can handle your shit like a grown up. If you're bad at something, practice until you're not. There's really not much more to it. Cowboy the fuck up and take the initiative.

The_Sneaky_Guy · 2014-05-09T18:08:48+00:00

The eye contact game is an easy way to start building confidence; it's been posted on this sub before and I linked it at the end of this comment. Aside from the eye contact, you gotta man up and talk to people. I know it can be nerve-wracking and awkward at times, but I can say from experience that practice makes perfect.

I won't say I had clinical anxiety (not sure about the whole diagnosis thing but that's the not point here), but I'll admit that I wasn't the best with people and was lacking in the social department for the longest time. What I said above is what I did to start building confidence.

I worked through the tough times and the awkwardness that can come with socialization and just understood that it's all part of learning and just being human.

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/18ba40/a_list_of_fun_useful_social_games/

rangamatchstick · 2014-05-09T16:10:44+00:00

There are a few methods, most of which have been described bellow (fallenistand, RadianHero)however there is another method I have used lately which has worked really really well.

Its called "power posing" you do it before you do whatever it is, and its a stance you hold for 2 minutes. Two of the poses I do are hands on hips, stand up straight, head up. The other is sitting down (good in lectures or other places), stretch your legs out, cross them over, lean back, chill.

These methods sounds weird but they have been proven to increase your testosterone levels, I have found it pretty affective for me but I dont think it will be as affective on its own, and as said practise helps.

joshsway · 2014-05-09T19:24:14+00:00

Indirectly gain confidence through results. Focus on getting the results you want, and as you get better at achieving your goals you will naturally become more confident. In other words, focus on how not to be awkward, and focus on approaching women as opposed to the nebulous and vague "confidence".

fallenistand · 2014-05-09T10:56:15+00:00

One thing I found helpful is the power stance. Don't slouch always look straight up don't ever look at the ground when you're walking. When you sit hold your arms on thighs don't fidget just start there

Title	How do I gain more confidence?
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Date	May 9, 2014 3:28 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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