How do I get a FWB?

ThatSpecialPlace · 2014-12-26T04:08:23+00:00

The key is to move quickly, establish intentions very early. First night lays are good FWB material. No small talk later on like people who are moving towards an exclusive relationship usually have. ("I miss you" "I enjoy spending time with you" etc) If you can leave after the first hook up, that's good because she'll know you're not looking for love. Have GREAT sex with her, then text her the next day: "Had a blast last night, let's do it again sometime. ;)"

NEVER ask a girl if she wants to be FWB. If the question comes up about what you want out of the relationship, just be honest and tell her you're not looking for anything serious. If she gets attached, move on because it will only end badly.

lostkarma · 2014-12-26T06:00:41+00:00

Tips for Getting a girl to becomes a FWB:

1) Pick up the girl and bring her back to your place for sexy time (yes this is way harder and takes more than 1 step, hence seddit, but go with me)

2) Have Unbelievably Great Sex the very first time you hook up. Make it be passionate, last a long time (ideally an hour), get her off multiple time, communicate. If you need more concrete examples, I HIGHLY recommend /r/sex (it is a great subreddit; very raw conversations)

3) After the sex. DO NOT set any girlfriend/boyfriend expectations (ThatSpecialPlace has a great comment on that).

4) Then start slowly Limiting the communication you have with her. if you were texting several times a day or conversations every other day. stop it. What you should do is then say "hey lets get together early friday/saturday night."

5) Meet up with her on a party night (friday saturday) early though. Have friends around (preferably at least one or two friends of yours) Meet around 7-9 because if it is after 12 then she will feel like a booty call. A booty call is not a friend (with benefits). During this friday night out, treat her like a friend at first. Introduce her to everyone as your friend and don't make too many sexual advances.

6) As the night wears on, and you imbide more liquor with your friends. Then start hitting on her more and being flirty. (maybe start this around 10:30) by midnight you should have surprised kissed her at least once or twice.

7) take her home and have unbelievably great sex again

8) the next day, dont treat her like a girl friend. You can drive her home but dont be all "ohh i miss you. can't wait to see you. you are my star" Instead say something like "last night was great. Out with all our friends! Then afterwards i had fun too ;). We'll have to do it again because you're cool.

9) dont text her during the week at all except what you would to a friend. Then ask her two or three weeks later to a different party/bar crawl. Rinse and repeat.

10) eventually you will get to a point where she will be like "oh he's really cool. But we just don't communicate enough for a boyfriend. But the sex is great and I love going out with him." Then you will sorta just fall into the friends with benefits situation.

TL;DR - Invite her out to party with your friends. Treat her and call her friend. Text her like a friend. Try to hangout with her like a friend. But then halfway through a friday or saturday evening, start flirting and hitting on her more. then bounce to your place for unbelievable sex. next day treat her like a friend again.

tl;dr;tl;dr - Have great sex then treat her like a friend.

hypothermiatic · 2014-12-26T04:25:55+00:00

The thing about a FWB type scenario is that people figure their approach is what failed them, when realistically, the problem is that a majority of women are looking for something more than that. So you need to start out by communicating with women about what they want. You can start less harsh if you'd like to begin with, "I'm not looking for a relationship right now," and clarify it after a short bit of time, "Just to be clear, I'm not looking to ever turn this into dating."

If you're as good looking as you say, and good in bed, you'll be set. FWB relationships are still relationships mind you, and a woman will likely be somewhat concerned about how well you get along. So you've still got to be likable. (great sex and with mild emotional flirting).

There's really not a magic way to change what a girl is looking for. But a lot of people I know have success with the online dating scene, where you have the ability to be really clear about what you're looking for. Hell, if you're looking super sexy, post on Craigslist. Not everyone on there is a total creeper.

nap359 · 2014-12-26T05:03:31+00:00

tinder…seriously though. And fwb never lasts forever, the last two girls I've been fwb with have both fallen for me

recyclablebantha · 2014-12-26T11:39:44+00:00

So I'm 20 years old and I've been out of the dating game for a long time dealing with working on myself and some personal issues. The last time I got laid was over a YEAR ago.

Look, if it's only been a year, it hasn't been a long time. There are guys out there who are over 30 and never even seen a woman naked. You are choosing a mindset that will make it harder to break your dry spell.

.....I don't make many moves. I have a few girls that have tried to pursue me, not aggressively but obvious enough, however I can tell that some of these girls want to be in an actual relationship.

How do you know that some of those girls want to be in an "actual relationship?"

I've had a few bad relationships and you can say they have made my heart a bit frozen and as a result I'm not looking for love only FWB for now. The question is though, how do I get one, and communicate it to her I most likely won't fall in love with her but I'll fuck her anytime she wants.

What you do is go out with a girl one on one and escalate to sex, then have the Talk with her after sex. See this video for a good example of the Talk.

Also avoid, PDAs and cutesy couple stuff like holding hands or romantic gestures. Or else you'll muddy the water.

deptford · 2014-12-26T06:15:36+00:00

There is this woman who is interested in me. To be honest, I would not mind banging her. She wants the bf experience. Next time I see her, I will let her know that I have no time for a full relationship and will use this line ' I can't handle a full relationship, but I want to handle your body and would let you handle mine....can you handle that"?

Title	How do I get a FWB?
Author	hypothermiatic
Upvotes	17
Comments	23
Date	December 26, 2014 3:56 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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