I've been told I look like a player. Most girls put up a barrier, around 95%. I'd say around 5% are interested in me. I get a lot of respect from men but it has been horrible for my dating life. I dress up, wear blazers, suits and peacoats and gel my hair but this is for work; I need to look sharp. I feel like "looking like a player" is actually detrimental. You need to be good looking without looking like a player so how do I do that?