I'M curious about this as all of my lays have come from cold approach/game. I walk up to girls, tell them I noticed them and think they're hot. Flirt/show intent. And if they are attracted to me, they flirt back and we hook up. But my cold approach method seems a bit incongruent for most situations that aren't cold approach

So unlike most of most friends, i've never hooked up with say a female friend or like, the bargirl in my local pub, or a work colleague, hot next door neighbour etc.

It feels kind of alien to me. When I ask my friends about exactly how it happened, they frustratingly seem unable to add any detail lol. Like who flirted first. How, exactly. The sort of convos they had that maybe lead too it. How it went from flirting to sex etc. (and they also can't relate to how I do it and seem confused lol. ''What did you sya to her?!!'' kind of thing, if they see me pull a random girl home from a bar)

One pattern though SEEMS to be that in all the cases, they knew the girl thought they were hot. So maybe she was the one who started flirting. Or she told someone else that he was hot, and that girl(the friend) told the guy, so he knew he was now able to shoot his shot whilst being guaranteed to not get a rejection

But the fact that so many of them seem too imply that it was the girl who either flirted first or made it obvious he was her type, makes me think that i'm not really missing anything (e.g the hot girls I know and work with or have mutual friends with etc don't give me IOI's etc or the feeling they are blatantly into me)

So instead of thinking 'how do I get that hot new girl at work?' I should probably stop worrying and just think 'if she likes me, it'll be obvious''

To ease my curiosity, tell me how such hookups happened for you.