How do you avoid neediness when you are in scarcity?

Shartgun_ · 2019-11-11T04:55:32+00:00

If your friends make you feel that way, they aren’t gonna change the way they are so just stop hanging around people who make you feel like shit.

You probably are just a considerate empathic human being, and your friends are most likely insecure about XYZ, and they project their insecurities on you. They may seem more confident than you on the outside, but once you mature emotionally you will see that they need to use you to feel better about themselves.

Fortunately, every new person you meet you can make a new impression and literally reinvent who you are. Just figure out how to make new friends, and you won’t have this problem.

I would recommend doing some hobbies your good at, and eventually you will make friends, you can either pick friends who are better than you so you can challenge yourself or friends that need help improving so you can teach them and bring value to them.

You will always feel needy if you aren’t aligned with yourself, because a part of you will be telling you that you don’t deserve the mate you desire since you are not able to be the person you desire. Think about it, why should anyone genuinely invest in you if you haven’t invested in yourself.

Good Luck!

Cirrustratus · 2019-11-11T04:55:33+00:00

i feel like that but you must push trough that, and start talking to women and getting the assets you need (friends, hobbies, etc) Must work first before seeing results, its not that easy i know, im still trying getting this shit.

hunterpua · 2019-11-11T06:05:43+00:00

Is neediness inevitable in my situation?

Only for about a few minutes.

The hard part really of what I'm about to teach you is the nerves or the paranoia of "What if people will see and think I'm weird/an asshole or something?"

If you can push through that and do it, you should be fine though.

Its real simple.

When you go out, talk to one girl, the scarcity will still be pretty apparent here, but then immediately after talking to that girl and I mean immediately, go talk to another girl.

You can even look over the first girl's shoulder to spot the next girl.

Repeat until you've talked to 10 girls.

You're going for a number with every single approach.

Literally the more girls you talk to the less of a scarce feeling you have especially if you're getting numbers.

For one, even if you get rejected by previous girls you're already showing yourself through first hand experience that there are in fact plenty of fish in the sea.

First hand experience will always be a more powerful way to communicate to yourself than just trying to talk yourself into believing the plenty of fish idea.

And for another, if you do get numbers from previous girls then you will be much more relaxed with later girls because you already have a bunch of other girls to fall back on.

When you get to the point when you can get even 5 out of 10 you no longer have scarcity and you have real, tangible abundance.

Make sure you don't screw that up by picking only one girl to go on a date with.

Go on dates with all of them.

Fuck all of them.

The only time you have to choose is when you decide you want a monogamous relationship with someone.

Going from scarcity to fucking multiple girls is a very awesome transition and its very doable and there's nothing stopping you from a how-to standpoint because I already told you how to do it.

All that's left is for you to nut up and actually do it.

Just say "fuck it" and go for broke. You'll be happy you did.

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grrinchas · 2019-11-11T16:18:04+00:00

You can't avoid, but you can pretend. The only thing matters is the people perception anyway.

Title	How do you avoid neediness when you are in scarcity?
Author	SimilarThought4
Upvotes	5
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Date	November 11, 2019 2:05 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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