How do you get really good at self amusement?

FarTooLong · 2011-06-30T01:41:44+00:00

I feel as if I am a veritable master at amusing myself, which is why I'm in the seduction reddit.

agoodtowel · 2011-06-29T18:37:48+00:00

Self amusement doesn't always have to be funny. Self amusement can come in many forms from intellectual and philosophical debates to political conversations to just plain being silly. Try to take everything in stride. Part of the game is having fun while you're doing it. If you're not having fun, then there's really not much point.

frogma · 2011-06-30T06:57:25+00:00

Like FarTooLong, I consider myself an expert on self-amusement.

And like agoodtowel said, self-amusement doesn't have to be about "funny" shit, though it's a bit complicated.

I like to do shit that other people would consider "crazy," sometimes "socially unacceptable," or what-have-you. It gets me into trouble fairly often, but since I'm genuinely self-amused, I consider that a small price to pay (and don't really care when it happens).

I wish I could give you some specific examples (you can PM me actually).

Basically, I used to be pretty insecure. The idea of talking to strangers was almost literally an impossibility for me. I hated when some stranger would walk up and try to make conversation with me. I was always too afraid that I'd get a bad reaction, and I was in my own head too much. So you have to stop giving any sort of fucks about what other people think of you (which is essentially the definition of self-amusement).

One thing I used to do, to just sort of "throw myself into the fire," was I'd walk up to people and say the weirdest shit in the world, to purposely create an awkward situation where they thought I was socially retarded (and I still do it all the time). The mall is a good place to do it. Think of something really stupid to say- something like "I just farted and it smelled terrible!"- and walk up to anyone you want and say it. OWN IT. Then just walk away and laugh about it (though you'll be surprised at how often it turns into a decent conversation). Make up your own stupid shit and go say it to people. After you do that a handful of times, not only will it help you get over AA, but you'll learn how fucking irrelevant other people's perceptions of you are. Make life fun, and make fun of all the pussies who are so afraid of awkwardness that they stay stuck in this tiny shell of a comfort-zone all the time.

Anyway, once you can handle situations like that, normal conversations are easy as shit, and you'll see how important it is to do everything in life for yourself (not that you can't do things for other people, but I think you catch my drift). It's the only life you've got, so make it worthwhile.

AnotherSedditAccount · 2011-06-30T07:17:52+00:00

Be really observant. People often do all kinds of little things that they hope nobody else notices. It's fun to spot those sorts of things. Never make a big deal out of it, but you can playfully bring it up like it's no big deal and build rapport.

Here's a personal example from last night. I was at this really fancy wine bar in San Francisco with a coworker. We were sitting at the bar and periodically chatting with the HB10 somalier. At one point, I noticed her just downing about half a glass of wine. I waited until she came up to us and said in a mock chastising voice, "I saw that." She immediately knew what I was talking about, and did that cute expression girls have when they get caught doing something. Then she joked that she has to "taste the wine" and I reinforced it by saying, "Oh yeah, it's a really tough job." And that was that.

(There's not much more to the story, unfortunately. We bantered the whole time we were there and she gave us some suggestions on other places we can go, including some place that she said she'd probably end up at that night. We ended up checking it out around 11:30 but she wasn't there. We had to catch the last Caltrain so only hung around for one drink, and I wasn't coming back to SF on this trip anyways).

Karma_Be_Damned · 2011-06-30T22:10:01+00:00

Thats a pretty personal thing man. What amuses me may not amuse you. Go sit down somewhere in public and think about one thing you could do that would amuse yourself. ie shooting the paper off a straw at a random cute chick at wendies. Then do it. Then think of something else and do that. Keep it up. Eventually you'll be mentally masturbating all damn day.

graffiti81 · 2011-07-01T15:26:06+00:00

If you're looking to be happier overall and elevate your mood, I've found something that seems to work for me: lifting. I felt pretty crappy yesterday after going out with a girl who showed no interest despite my best try. I went and destroyed my 1RM deadlift (by something like 65 lbs) and I felt awesome afterwards.

Maybe this isn't what you're looking for, but it works for me.

the2nafish · 2011-07-02T10:12:48+00:00

I basically engage the world under the pretense that everything I have to say is very damn interesting, awesome, and funny. When I was little I was an only child and I played with my hands a lot and did expressions in the mirror....I'm practically bred to be self amusing. I could sit in a white room by myself and be perfectly fine with entertainment forever. I think the most important thing is enthusiasm. Confidence really isn't that necessary if your not into sharing a piece of yourself to someone else. You have to want to share you...

reefine · 2011-07-01T01:46:07+00:00

self amusement goes hand in hand with self confidence. People will listen to you more intently if you are genuine in your conversational strengths (whether it be comedy, listening well, keeping conversation interesting and relevant)

let-it-rain · 2011-07-04T16:27:10+00:00

Reading is a way to self amuse. Too introvert?

Title	How do you get really good at self amusement?
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Date	June 29, 2011 6:30 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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