How do you guys reconcile with cold approaching and studying/working? What's the ideal frequency and at what point was it useless?

bournit · 2020-04-09T15:31:54+00:00

Interesting question. So, I see, you are busy a lot. I speak from a similar position: in the last year I've introduced daygame in my life, while I'm doing 2 unis at the same time, so I know which type of mental crysis you're living.

My suggestion is: work is the most important thing. Don't touch it. For studying: find the better and most efficient ways of studying. What I found is that when u are so busy u have to sacrifice a lot the societal conventions, and study when u can, not when u should. In last months I've consistently studied in the evening, even during weekends. I don't advice to do it because it takes tons of ability to not give a fuck about "societal" life (like going out with friends in clubs or bars). But I did it because I really wanted my life to be based on things that are for me really valuable, and approaching is one of them.

So my point is: don't live as a black sheep just for daygaming, but know that when everybody else is at work or at uni, that's the perfect moment to get out. And when everybody else is out there """"hustling"""" in discos and bars, that is the perfect moment for focusing on you things.

So, about approaching. Approaching once a week is completely uneuseful (do u do only 1 approach a week?) for several different reasons:

It doesn't give u numbers of possibilities u need. Ask whoever about when the first lay comes, and they'll say "after 100/200 or even 300 approaches". For me more the 100 surely. And that's how it is. If you keep this pace u will need 2 years, in which the probability to start believing it "doesn't work" is superhigh. If you keep going approaching once a week, approach a lot more, do it for yourself.
You'll always cold. The first set of the day (the firsts 3 - 5 I would also add) are the worse. The more u stay with strangers the more u are confident with them. Same with stranger women.
You're not integrating it into your personality. That's why you still have difficulty in approaching in your zone, or explaining this to friends and so on. You're wearing the "daygamer" mask once each 7 days. No, that's what you are. Or at least what u want to be.
Approach anxiety. The less you face it the more it is powerful. I had a buddy with I went out sometimes. He was superscared when I got out with me , and merely did 1 or 2 weak compliments to girls. Then he started getting out with another guy that motivated him way more : 20 approaches in an afternoon. The more you approach the less approach anxiety you'll have. Desensitization baby.

This is what I found in my experience. Hope it will be useful

Row-russ · 2020-04-09T12:19:33+00:00

Just don't expect crazy results based on the actions you're taking. If you approach 1/week understand that your progress will be slow and if you're happy with that then that's cool, but if you want to get good then 1/week won't cut it. On th flip side I've seen guys who mass approach for 2-3 months get no results and end up quitting. My advice would be do as many sessions as you can but also an amount you can be consistent with over the next 6 months. Another option is to get a mentor which will cut your learning curve even though you don't approach frequently

nickvnick · 2020-04-09T18:21:08+00:00

Honestly, you can really effectively focus on 2 areas of your life at once.

Considering that, you may want to put pick up on the backburner for a few months.

Make your other focus something that will help you in school (i.e. exercise or building up a social network). When you have at least a month where school isn't a focus, do game.

Going out once a week won't be a total waste of time. But your progress and improvement will be very slow.

Title	How do you guys reconcile with cold approaching and studying/working? What's the ideal frequency and at what point was it useless?
Author	Weeeyerd
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Date	April 9, 2020 10:04 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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