How do you improve inner game?

norwegiandoggo · 2026-08-01T17:49:49+00:00

You need to talk yourself into believing better of yourself. Like you are literally in control of your own self-talk. If you tell yourself she is better than you, then you are being quite silly. You caused your own problem. Take control of your self talk.

Also: Smaller steps man.

If certain things are too scary for you right now - don't start there. Start with something smaller, and get competent at a lower level before progressing.

random_question4123 · 2026-08-01T17:53:20+00:00

As the other commenter said, progressive exposure and prior successes. The best way to look at it is like this: "success begets success". If you have a successful interaction, or you even pull a girl, it makes you hungry for more, and it makes you realize that it can be achieved.

So how do you get that success? You start small. You talk to a girl or group of girls that appear easily approachable. You focus on girls that are your attractiveness level or below, not just girls you're attracted to. And then as you realize that you have more successful interactions than rejections, you can keep pushing the envelope from there.

The difference between someone that's good at what they do and a beginner is that the person that's good can easily analyze and assess who / what works best for him and picks and chooses his battles to maximize the odds of winning.

Independent-Bad218 · 2026-08-01T18:11:37+00:00

Progressive exposure is bs.

To begin with, the first set is the hardest, then AA drops as the session progresses. Eventually you hit flow where you can barely feel any AA (this usually requires multiple opens in short period of time. Wouldnt recommend to chase flow longterm)

What really happens is that everyone has a shock phase (roughly 200 sets), where you can barely register what is happening in the set. Afterwards you learn to push yourself through AA and start noticing whats happening in the set.

All in all you need friction. Whether you want to do it progressively, mass approaching or what have you is up to you. But dont try to give it a different name than it truly is.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-08-01T18:20:58+00:00

Start with taking DAILY cold showers and doing things you don't want to do consistently. More about that in the book called the Flinch. It's a really short book that teaches you to act upon your impulse and overcoming the fear before it paralyzes you.

Nervous-Arrogance · 2026-08-01T19:05:12+00:00

Psychocybernetics - Read and do the exercises (make them consistant with what you are trying to improve)

The Inner Game of Tennis - What "inner game" was based on, change it from tennis to seduction

Unstoppable Confidence - The classic by Ross J (basically a guided version of Psychocybernetics)

Sleight of Mouth/Mind Lines - A decent framework for challenging your beliefs and altering that movie in your head.

epimpstyle · 2026-08-01T19:21:37+00:00

I don't have the balls to walk over and talk to women.

Forget about inner game, don’t buy into that stuff. It’s simply about the fact that you lack a reason to talk to them... I mean, to really get the point, imagine you’re walking down the street and you see a roof tile slowly sliding off a house, and a girl is walking right into that spot... Wouldn’t you tell her to watch out? Or if she was walking in front of you and dropped her phone, wouldn’t you say something? Notice how the second you have a reason, you can easily talk to her? However, since those things don’t really happen IRL, it’s up to you to build a context to start a conversation with a girl.

**How do you improve inner game?**

The irony is that all the guys who praise inner game to high heaven are the exact same ones telling you, ‘Just go up and talk to her, whatever happens, happens!’ Wait a second! Isn't inner game supposed to give me the courage to approach? Then why am I being told to force myself and approach anyway?... Do you see how stupid that is?

esy_crux · 2026-08-01T16:24:16+00:00

Progressive exposure.. Nothing else

Title	How do you improve inner game?
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