How do you improve yourself when in a relationship?

AIRSKI · 2017-01-16T22:34:42+00:00

Getting comfortable is kinda limiting because then you don't strive for improvement. Remember there's no such thing as "the one". If the relationship doesn't work there's plenty more girls that you'll feel a connection with.

But as for your question find things to do with her or alone that put you in social situations if you're really that shy. You could talk to people at clubs/bars, or find stuff happening in your nearest city. I find Groupon helps me find cool new stuff to do

SerialOfSam · 2017-01-17T02:22:31+00:00

You need goals!

Strive for things in those hobbies that put you in uncomfortable situations. You hit the gym? Register for Tough Mudder. You dance? Enter a competition. You play guitar? Play at an Open Mic.

I'm still a ways off from doing these things myself, but having these goals gives me purpose.

rawbface · 2017-01-17T14:47:23+00:00

I too am in an LTR, and I think the study of seduction has way more benefits than just picking up girls.

First of all, expand your scope. Don't just try to seduce hot girls you want to have sex with... try to seduce everybody. Make your girlfriend's best friend think that you are a great guy and she's lucky to have you. Make her boyfriend think you're the fucking man. Win over all the guys at work. I have to say, when you yourself are a desirable person, your girlfriend will be more happy. Be a desirable person.

Also, keep up with your hobbies and pursuits. Follow your dreams. Seduction skills come in handy when starting your own business, or working in sales. I work in sales, and at sales conferences I hear the exact same advice as in these PUA podcasts and articles. The skills carry over very well. I've seen a coworker of mine go from a cold approach (asking the bartender at a hotel for a restaurant recommendation) to stroking this woman's hand while she giggled and told him what time she's done work, in under 10 minutes. I was impressed. It's not for everybody, but my point is to find a profession that you're passionate about, and that best utilizes your skills.

Murfdigidy · 2017-01-16T22:43:46+00:00

I'm in a relationship, I never stop flirting with other girls. And think of flirting as just interacting with other girls. I don't cling to my girl all night, I'll float, I'll talk to other social circles, other groups of girls. It's good fun, i Bullshit and banter with girls. It's never creepy and my girl knows I'm a social butterfly. You never get clingy, always know that you're the catch just as much as she is. I work out consistently, I'm in great shape and I still go on this sub because its fun, has good advice and I'll never stop flirting with girls.

Title	How do you improve yourself when in a relationship?
Author	omziraal
Upvotes	15
Comments	4
Date	January 16, 2017 9:12 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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