So I find that with girls, In the past I have had a tendency to get emotionally involved very quickly and start to develop feelings for them. This was partly due to oneitises and insecurities. But now I find the opposite. I have some amazing girls in my life, I'm currently involved with 4 different girls, all of which are sexy and really cool girls, but I don't have any feelings for them.

When I meet a girl, in order to maintain the abundance mentality I tell myself that it doesn't really matter if she's not into me, because I can just go find another one anyway. This is what I tell myself whenever I get nervous about anything, or really any fear of rejection involving a woman. But by doing this I feel I almost devalue her, and just kill dead any potentially more meaningful connections before they have a chance to develop.

Is this just a side effect of practicing PUA? Do other people get this? Any ways to have the best of both worlds?