Ok so I want to preface this by saying over the last couple of months I've really laid off on the whole pick up thing, I've been hooking up with a few girls regularly so I haven't needed or been bothered going out much so I was kind of rusty and low on confidence. The girls I've been seeing were away though so I had to pick up my balls and start approaching again.

I went out on Saturday night and opened about 20 sets, from that I got a couple of dances, but got blown out of the majority of them. This kind of worked in my favour because I got my AA out of the way for nye.

NEW YEARS EVE # 1

Some of my friends hit me up and ask me what I'm doing for new years, I have a house party to go to so we have a few beers and head out there. I know the guy hosting so I introduce everyone, and then go and try to meet a few people. It's in an apartment and there are a lot of people there, and a lot of them are pretty young and just getting totally fucked, (17-18 yrolds) so we leave and decide to head to town.

There are meant to be fireworks down on the waterfront so we go and check them out, and as we're walking along I see 3 german girls (HB8, HB7, and the inevitable HB3). I include myself in their conversation, as though I've been with them all along and then ask HB3 her name. Then they ask me my name and I introduce them to my friends. Then HB7 says "Are you english? I looove english guys!"

So from there we head down to the waterfront and just hang out and chat, my mate who I recently referred to a lot of PUA material, is hitting on the HB8 and I hit on the HB7, and my mate with a girlfriend is taking care of the HB3. They like us a lot, and keep asking us to take pictures with them, and are kissing us on the cheek and we're all just flirting.

Anyway, come the countdown I grab the HB7 because she's closest and kiss her, then the HB8 comes over to me and grabs me and kisses me, we leave there and then go back to the club under their hostel. My friend is hitting it off with HB8, who is a little bit too drunk, and I'm getting along with HB7. We're holding hands, talking about sex, and generally agreeing that we're gonna bang without specifically saying it. When we get back to the hostel, my friend goes with HB8 to her room to get her ID, and I go to the club with HB7 where we start hooking up.

At one point during when we're kissing and dancing she pulls out her phone, and starts to text. As soon as she does this I turn away and start dancing with another group of girls. This shows her that she has to work if she wants my attention, and sure enough, as soon as she finishes her text she comes to find me and starts dancing with me again.

Then HB3 came down and told her they had to go upstairs, turns out that HB8 was really sick and throwing up, so HB7 kisses me, tells me she'll see me later and that was the end of that. My friend comes downstairs from looking after HB8 while she vomited, and is pretty pissed off and wants to go somewhere else so we leave.

Next club we go to, an HB8 and an HB9 come over and start dancing with my friend and I, and I have a wave of AFC come over me, and I just freeze and don't even do anything, sure enough she gets bored and walks away. I'm raging at myself at this point for being such a little bitch.

Skip ahead in the night and after opening a few other sets and generally getting frustrated with my lack of game/trying too hard and generally not getting further than a bit of banter and dancing, I meet this HB5 (probably an HB7 in looks but personality brings it down) in the club and start dancing with her, after building up attraction through kino we start kissing, and then she tells me she wants to go back to her hostel, and tells me to come walk and have a cigarette with her. When we get outside she grabs my hand and tells me to come with her, I think about it, and realize that basically I don't really want to bang this girl, and if I did do it, it would just be to try to make up for fucking up earlier in the night. So I kiss her and tell her I have to meet my friends and leave her and end up going home alone. (this story comes into play later).

New Years Eve #2

Wake up in the morning and my friends who are crashing on my couches are just up chilling and watching TV. I tell them that we need to go and get coffee and breakfast so we all go down to the pub and get some food and coffee.

When we get there, my friend goes inside to get his coffee and comes out with this HB8, who we all have a bit of a chat with, and then her friend turns up and they go inside and get a table. They came and had a bit of a chat with us but didn't want to join us.

Another table of a gay guy, and an HB7 see this and come over and say they'll join us because we seem like fun. The gay guy buys us all a jug of beer and we all have a good chat about the antics from the night before, after an hour or so GG leaves and HB7 decides she's going to stay. I'm talking to her and find out she has a boyfriend, so I tell her that I don't sleep with girls with boyfriends (true) so she's out of luck, and then my friends and I are all flirting with her just for fun and she's just loving the attention.

After about 2 hours of drinking with this girl, this HB8.5 walks out with a massive backpack on, which is about 2/3 the size of her. I say to her "You look like a little camel, do you have water in there?" She laughs and says that she has her whole life in there, and I tell her to come and join us.

I pull up a seat next to me and offer it to her and she comes and sits down. We find out she's on holiday from Colorado, and that it hadn't been their new years yet. She tells us also that she didn't celebrate new years and that she was watching Titanic instead. I take her hand and play out the "I'll never let go" scene with her. (Girls love that scene). Then I tell her that she has to celebrate new years so we'll have a little party just for her when the clock strikes midnight in Colorado.

She thinks this is great, and we all have a few more beers, and then when the time comes around, I announce to the people at the tables around us in the bar that we're doing a countdown for Colorado new years for this girl, and get them all to count down from ten. Then on 'happy new years' I grab her and give her a new years kiss.

From this whole situation, it basically doubled the size of our drinking group because everyone now wanted to come and hang out with us as we were the 'fun' group in the bar. We sit there for the majority of the day just smoking and drinking and playing pool and making new friends, as group that came into the bar that seemed fun and wasn't with anyone I would just invite over to drink with us.

This helped me to demonstrate extreme value to all of the people there, particularly the HB8.5 because not only was I the one choosing who our group was, but also leading them. For instance I suggested to the group (which was quite international), that everyone sings a verse from their national anthem. I then sing the first verse of God save the queen, and then everybody else in the circle took turns singing a verse. HB8.5 told me later that she was impressed that I would just sing infront of strangers, and that it was a really fun idea to help everyone get more comfortable with each other.

Cut to later on in the evening and I want to start to really ramp up the sexual attraction with the HB8.5, so at the table we're at, so I say.

"Ok, let's go around the table and say how each nationality fucks - let's start with you Hb8.5"

She kind of avoids the question and doesn't really answer, just basically saying "Americans fuck normally, I dunno... um..." etc..

Then she asks me how English fuck. So I said, while triangling (eye, eye, lips - repeat)

"We start off really sensually" while I lightly rub my hand up her back to her hair

"then we take control" grab a handful of her hair

"then we get rough" pull her handful of hair back gently so she's looking up at the ceiling

"then we get passionate" kiss her on her neck, and then let her go

"do American girls like getting their hair pulled?"

she said she did, then another guy at the table started talking about how their nationality fucks, but no problem, objective achieved, I had got her thinking about what it's like having sex with me, and given her exciting physical contact to exacerbate those thoughts, and so I started escalating physically from there (stroking her back, rubbing her leg under the table)

It's getting to leaving time so I decide to seal the deal with the HB8.5 so the conversation went like this.

Me: I think your plan today was just to get me drunk and corrupt me! Her: No! I'm an innocent girl Me: Well it's ok, just as long as you promise to look after me. Her: How will I look after you? Me: Just walk me home and make sure I get home safely. Her: But if I'm looking after you tonight, how will I get to my flight at 7am tomorrow. Me: Here, I'll set an alarm on my phone, and call you a taxi to be there in the morning so you're all set. Her: Ok, I'll make sure you get home safely.

Anyway, shortly after that we all left, she came home with me. As soon as we got into my room, she had a look around, made herself comfortable and then we started making out. I had her down to just her underwear in no time, but then the LMR/ASD kicked in. She told me that she didn't want to sleep with me because she thought I was a player. I pointed to my basket ball and football and told her that I'm a football and basketball player, then pointed to my guitar and told her I was a guitar player too. She laughed, and then said. "No I'm serious, I don't like guys who just sleep with anyone"

Then I told her the story about the girl from the night before, and how we had kissed and danced but because I didn't have a connection with her, I turned her down. I told her that I don't sleep with many people because I feel that you need to have an amazing connection with someone to sleep with them, and that I look at a girl who is amazingly hot with a shitty personality, the exact same way as I look at a girl with an amazing personality and shitty looks. That they have part of the equation, but not the whole thing. And there's not a lot of girls who are like that around, but it's important to make the most of the connections that you develop with those people, because that's what life is all about. About those amazing, unexpected connections you make with people, that you allow to develop, and who you'll never forget. (I have honestly grown to believe this)

After that the LMR and ASD was gone, because I had changed her perspective of the situation from her getting fucked by a player, to having an amazing connection with an amazing person and allowing it to turn into a special experience.

This for me, is the perfect example of leaving someone better than you found them. When she left in the morning she told me that she was so pleased that she had met me, more than anyone else on her travels, and then she left. I'll probably never see her again, but I know that we are both better off than we were before we met.