How does pickup technique change for less desirable guys?

jamba_juice · 2011-01-04T21:56:23+00:00

i think pickup was created for people like this. if you think about it, an attractive guy doesnt have to try as hard most of the time. study up and apply.

you are going bald? like a receding hairline or you have a comb over? Check out jude law, he has a receding hairline and he is considered super sexy. Find a hair stylist that can make your hair work for you.

you are short, so what, find a way to make that a strength. take up MMA, or a sport where you can use that to your advantage.

I don't enjoy my voice either, but nobody has ever complained about it. in fact i've been told i have a sexy voice. it all depends on the person.

ugly - can't do much with that one. try dressing better if you don't already. when you present yourself as an attractive man, dressing well, grooming well, and carrying yourself well, your attraction will shoot up.

McSwagger · 2011-01-05T03:45:09+00:00

Work on your inner game, SON! IMO, Style is short, bald, and ugly, but he's the man.

In the meanwhile, hit the gym, especially if you're fat or scrawny.

throwaway703 · 2011-01-04T22:17:46+00:00

Dressing better and hitting the gym is the best way to offset these "disadvantages."

But my philosophy is that having looks can only help you. If you're not as "good looking" as some people, that just means you have to work harder (be more charismatic, fun, and etc).

As for dressing better, I found this IAMA thread really helpful in the clothes i wear. http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/e3wlm/iama_personal_stylist_for_men_i_teach_men_how_to/

2011-01-04T22:15:16+00:00

You can change baldness and your voice, btw. The baldness - well, going bald != bald, so like jamba_juice said, find a decent hair stylist and stick with him. Check out /r/malefashionadvice for hats and stuff as well.

As for your voice, you can change it within reason. Where you "speak from" dictates a fair amount about your voice, and even though it sounds nasal, if you speak from your belly it'll be deeper. Deeper voice = more attractive to women.

But as far as examples go, bald guys who aren't that tall are well represented by someone like Neil Strauss (Style) ...so if he can get them, there's no reason why you can't, too.

mfball · 2011-01-05T04:21:27+00:00

As cliche as it sounds, a sense of humor goes a loooong way, even for the most unattractive people. Personality will trump looks if the women are worth your time, so if you show them that you're more than your appearance, you'll find someone. I've dated some guys who were less than cute because they made me laugh and they didn't spend all their time worrying about their looks. As you said, your insecurity is probably holding you back a lot more than your looks. If you want to feel better about yourself, hitting the gym and getting some nice new clothes might make you feel a little more confident, but it's probably mostly psychological. If you tell yourself you're ugly, you'll feel ugly. If you tell yourself it doesn't matter, eventually it won't.

2011-01-05T07:11:01+00:00

Dude, have you seen what Neil Strauss, AKA Style, looked like before he got into PUA? From your description, you two could have been twins.

Here's his before/after.

RedErin · 2011-01-05T18:50:25+00:00

You'll need to social proof a bit more I'm thinking.

zoinks · 2011-01-05T15:37:18+00:00

all the things you listed point to you having inferior genetics. Let us 6'3" long haired studs do the hard work for you - you can settle down with a woman once we impregnate her

chiaaysa · 2011-01-05T18:55:12+00:00

I advise going against techniques in general, and just being yourself. Be confident, be funny, be interesting, be honest. Women who would be turned off by your appearance aren't the women you'd really be interested in anyway.

As an attractive chick, I gotta say that the first thing I tend to look for in a guy is not physical attractiveness. In fact, all but maybe one of the guys I've dated wouldn't be considered handsome by most, but they all had qualities that drew me to them.

Title	How does pickup technique change for less desirable guys?
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Date	January 4, 2011 9:31 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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