How much talking?

hunterpua · 2019-11-13T20:36:44+00:00

First of all, its advisable to let a girl talk as much as humanly possible. If you can have a 90/10 split with the girl doing the 90 then you're golden.

That doesn't say don't lead the conversation, you'll lead it but she'll just do most of the talking.

There's a common misconception that if you're not the one doing most of the talking you aren't leading.

But think of a general in the army, he doesn't do a lot in terms of fighting the battles, instead he just goes and tells the troops to do it and they do the majority of the work.

And "work" is the key word, the reason why its good to let the girl talk as much as possible is because in doing so she will be putting in the majority of the work and the more effort someone puts in you the more they value you.

Now that we understand that, how do you lead?

Let me start by addressing a point you bring up...

I feel like if I’m constantly asking her questions, she’ll feel like she has to entertain me.

This is a legitimate concern but entertaining you really isn't the problem, her entertaining you is a damn good thing because it means she'll do a lot of work in the interaction.

The problem is whether she'll think its worth it or not.

So real concern is, how do you make her feel like entertaining you is worth her while?

First of all, if you're literally asking her questions all the time then she'll only feel like entertaining you is worth it if she's extremely attracted to you from the get-go.

Other than that, you can't just ask question after question.

Instead, ask her a big open ended question, something she can't just answer with yes or no and after she responds, you respond to her response with your genuine feelings about what she just said.

This makes her feel like she actually gained something out of answering your question because she got you to share your feelings and show your personality after doing as you asked.

If this happens every time then she'll be happy to answer your questions every fucking time!

For example:

You: What's your favorite thing about this city? (open ended question)

Her: I have to say the variety. Theres always something going on and there's such a diversity in terms of things to do so whatever mood you're in theres always something for that here.

You: I never thought of it that way. I think I've been limiting myself to only a few things. I'm feeling really adventurous all of a sudden. (response with your genuine feelings)

You: What's one of the most memorable experiences you've had here? (your next open ended question)

By making sure you respond to what she says by sharing how you feel about what she just said every single time she answers a question of yours, you ensure that she will be willing to answer question after question.

You can literally just go on and on and on until it gets to a point where you're not even asking questions anymore, you're just responding with stories to each other's stories and she'll just want to talk your fucking ear off.

And remember the point about leading? By being the one who asks the questions you control the direction of the conversation because with the question you're telling her what to tell you next, hence, you lead even if you don't do a lot of talking.

Now your question might be, "Ok but where should I lead this to?"

Some people might say, "Sex!"

A conversation about sex is ok, its definitely a step in the right direction but there are much better things to lead it towards.

One of the best things to lead it towards is taking actual action.

If we look at the example I gave we left it at you asking her what her most memorable experience was.

We can take this conversation a few different ways to inspire action out of her, we can say "Why don't we make another memorable experience? What's something you've always wanted to do but have never done yet?"

When she answers say, "Let's go do that."

Or if her most memorable experience is something you've never done before and you wanna do it now you can say, "That sounds amazing! Is that something we can do now??"

If she says yes then say "Lets do it!"

If she says no then ask her when that thing can be done and plan to do it with her in the future.

You doing things together will always be much better than sitting there and talking about shit.

I can take this all the way to you two having sex but this comment is already long enough as it is.

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CaptainPUA · 2019-11-13T20:21:07+00:00

Its your job to make sure she talks in a way. Ask her questions that provoke emotions. Not WHAT happened but how it made her FEEL. If its a one off she may just be shy, if it's consistent with other girls then look into that.

Atriev · 2019-11-13T20:08:32+00:00

According to Corey Wayne, the women should do more talking.

Title	How much talking?
Author	FieldReports13
Upvotes	3
Comments	3
Date	November 13, 2019 7:50 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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