How nice should you be ?

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-07-21T03:12:13+00:00

Why does everyone assume that the opposite of being a Nice Guy is being an insufferable rude asshole?

MistyMaisel · 2022-07-21T03:12:11+00:00

As nice as you think is ethically correct in any given situation and is appropriate for the level of affection/desire/love you wish to communicate to any given person.

With that said, it sounds to me like you're confusing having boundaries with never being soft, compromising, or generous.

It's good to have boundaries. It isn't good to not be open to your lover/potential lovers.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-07-21T05:34:30+00:00

Be genuine, not fake. Understand and know the difference.

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-07-21T11:02:56+00:00

One simple word. Boundaries. Have boundaries. I'm also not I wouldn't say all the time but most of the time, it's fine, there's nothing wrong with that but I have my own boundaries and if someone was too much I let them know that I dont tolerate that so have your own boundaries, have your own values to live by and let people know how much they can get away with. They always gonna test your boundaries guys or girls it doesn't really matter so you have to stand up for it if you have to

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-07-21T03:15:31+00:00

There's no "nice guy" for all situations. That's what a pushover is.

I think about guy talk, and to tone it down some around women. Have some ediquette and don't be abrasive.

runaround_fruitcop · 2022-07-21T15:27:05+00:00

Why are people telling you that you're being rude?

If it's reoccurring, then you're doing something that's rude.

You don't have to be a push over, but that doesn't mean you have to never comply or bend to her wishes.

All relationships, even casual, are about give and take. If you just want her to 100% comply to you, but you think it's simpy or bad to never comply to her then that's a wrong mindset to have.

You need to set up boundaries. What you're ok with doing and or not doing. You're going to have to compromise occasionally and submit to some things she wants or enjoys or likes.

Same as her if she wants you.

You don't have to sacrifice yourself and your code and your sense of self for a woman, but compromise is necessary and completely different than that

Titty_Slicer_5000 · 2022-07-21T19:22:39+00:00

You should be nice and kind to both the other person and yourself. That’s all. You don’t need to be an asshole or not nice, you just need to have self-respect and not let the girl (or anyone else for that matter) disrespect you.

“Nice Guys” are usually just pretending to be nice and turn very not nice when they don’t get their way. That’s why there’s a giant stigma around “Nice Guys”. And that’s why women don’t like “Nice Guys”, because they’re not actually good people. Or they’re nice but have no self-respect for themselves and are pushover. Then women are turned off by the “no self-respect” part, not the “nice” part.

You don’t get a medal for being nice. Being nice is the standard, it’s what’s expected of you. If you really want to be attractive you have to be something besides just nice.

cobraCL · 2022-07-21T13:06:01+00:00

Be civil and treat others the way you want to be treated (practice basic empathy).

Be generous but set and uphold boundaries.

Put in effort and energy but never more than what you are getting back (balance).

Be express gratitude and appreciation when someone is good to you. Be vocal about it.

Consider different perspectives, and remain true to your beliefs simultaneously.

Title	How nice should you be ?
Author	SWIMS_labrat
Upvotes	1
Comments	13
Date	July 21, 2022 3:06 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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