How the hell can I become more vulnerable?

radioactivemayne · 2015-06-04T13:48:04+00:00

Dude the answer is congruence (the alignment of thoughts, feelings and actions). RSD Tyler explains it really well, and gives good tips on how to execute it. He basically says that guys fuck up cos they either try too hard or they try to act like they're not trying, and both these approaches are incongruent. So he basically explains how to be yourself. It's a pretty similar concept to vulnerability in the sense that you're putting the real you on the line, rather than using a constructed sense of self to try to meet women.

The video is around 15 mins long but totally worth it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZkAVtTUZug

cakeofzerg · 2015-06-04T11:00:36+00:00

You dont like yourself so you dont want to share your true self. Im not an expert on making that happen but once you like the person you are theres no problem sharing that with anybody.

JessePinkman88 · 2015-06-04T11:44:47+00:00

Its a habit you need to build over time.

Start small, next time you are in a group situation discussing some topic, speak up and let your opinion be known. Be willing for people to disagree with it, but state it anyway. It might be some minor topic like talking about a TV show.

If you can just do this one action, make sure you recognise that you did and remind yourself that is something you don't normally do, so you just became a little more vulnerable.

Once you see that it is very harmless to put yourself out there like that, even if someone objects or gets a bit offended, you become more inspired to do it again.

And then again and again and it snowballs until you realise you are now just speaking your mind around people without a second thought.

Then you can start understanding yourself better, your stengths, weaknesses, desires etc Accept those things about yourself and then you can also express these to others around you as well.

Some other ideas:

Smile at a random stranger
Ask the cashier "how's your day been?" next time you buy something
Send back your food at a restaurant if there's something wrong with it. So many people will just stay quiet and accept the sub-standard meal (I am guilty of this recently). It doesn't make you a jerk to point out they made a mistake when you are the customer paying for the service
Host a party or BBQ
Tell your boss about something you think could be improved or something that is inefficient at your workplace

These are all acts of vulnerability as there is the possibility of being ignored, rejected, judged etc Yet you take the action anyway, because it is part of your desire to build a better life. If some people don't want to come along for the ride, then you move on and try again to find the people who do.

DaygameCoach · 2015-06-04T14:54:09+00:00

Please explain to me what you mean by being vulnerable? And, you are trying to do this with every set and woman you open? (You said "people".)

What I think of being vulnerable, i think of sharing deep thoughts and emotions, and I do that with a woman I am escalating and it is often on a date and usually prior to sex. It's like when men tell women a story about how their divorce crushed them but made them a stronger person (this example is a "maker of man" story) which we call a "Deep Rapport Story."

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Title	How the hell can I become more vulnerable?
Author	IHateEggSalad
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	June 4, 2015 5:10 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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