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[–]Alpha-Turtle 3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Hey! First you have to change your mindset:
I think she is out of my league
She's not out of your league, mate. Just because she maybe looks good, doesn't mean she's better than you or something. Maybe she has a shitty personality and after you get to know her you won't like her that much. No girl is out of your league. Just imagine that they take a shit as well as anybody, and someone out there is sick of her shit.
I want to try my luck
This is good. Even if she rejects you, at least you try.
I don't know how to have a good 1st impression and a to start and good conversation and continue it You just have to go up to her, being yourself, and talk to her.
In order to have a good conversation you have to be present, and interested. You have to be genuinely interested in her. You go up to her thinking "What's she like? She looks nice, but what does she like?" and you should have no problem talking. However, if you have time, watch this for conversation skills.
This subreddit is designed to learn how to deal with girls in general, not one in particular, but however, she could be your first attempt. Also, read the sidebar -->> Good luck mate!
[–]Murfdigidy 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yea Alfa turtle is on to something, I'll add a little advice too...i think a lot of men make a huge mistake about going into an approach with an extremely wrong mind set. Everything is all about mind set, NEVER NEVER NEVER put the girl on a pedestal. Meaning guys are quick to put the girl on a pedestal just because she's cute... DON'T. I know plenty of shitty girls that are hot, I also know a lot of awesome girls that aren't. I always go into an approach wanting to know if this girl is cool or not, I am constantly judging her character because this helps me keep hot girls in check. I was like you, in college I'd see a super cute girl and want to talk to her and then everytime I saw her I'd get excited and want to approach, but I was too chicken shit or she was with friends. The problem with that though is again, I was putting too much value on her just because she was cute, I hadn't even talked to her before I was making her out to be the most beautiful nicest thing on earth. Train yourself to not do this and not only will this help you immensely it will also allow you to be picky about girls.
[–]AquaGiant 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No mindset is the best mindset IMO. But that's basically impossible, so the next best thing is to simplify everything that goes on your head.
All that you should be thinking is: "I want to get to know this girl, I'm gonna have some fun with it" and then you just go up and say hi. Take it from there. Keep your brain as fresh, simple and positive as possible. The other factors and possibilities? That's just noise, tune it out!
[–]DaygameCoach 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Read the sidebar help. She isn't out of your league since this isn't bowling. Just do it.
[–]CrushHazard 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just do it. Before you can even evaluate what "league" she is in, you should be planning on the best way to approach her.
College offers a lot of forgiveness. There were a few times when I crashed and burned on the approach and planned never to talk to the girl again. Then a few weeks later, she approaches me and we set a date.
Even more than a girl wants to be with a "hot guy" she wants to feel like a "hot girl". Even if you are awkward or weird, if you approach boldly and show candid admiration, it will give her that feeling that all girls crave. They want to be wanted.
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