How to be more spontaneous and unpredictable?

pickup_sticks · 2013-03-11T06:07:07+00:00

I'm like this too, but have gotten more spontaneous since I started learning about game. The biggest thing for me was to learn to just voice whatever random things popped into my head.

My motto is, "if you see it, say it." It could be something as simple as complimenting someone on the cool outfit their wearing, or asking someone wearing earphones what they're listening too.

Or I might see someone across the room that reminds me of a character in a movie, so I'll say something like "is it just me, or is that dude the embodiment of Napoleon Dynamite?"

For me at least, it was a revelation to realize how much I was censoring my thoughts, and liberating to let them free.

RockyMontage · 2013-03-11T09:15:02+00:00

Play russian roulette on a regular basis.

Seriously though, its not actual spontaneity and unpredictability that attracts girls. Its being in your own reality and doing what you want to do, when you want to do it.

2013-03-11T03:13:06+00:00

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Kanaro · 2013-03-11T05:47:01+00:00

I often hear that as well, from good friends. I managed to imply I'm crazy and unpredictable towards others over the years, though.

For me, it's enough to say what I think and to do what feels right. Although I am a rational person (my dad calls me emotionally-rational), my direct thoughts and feelings are definitely not predictable, and I don't think anyone's are. So embrace them.

I was in a long distance train, when I noticed I was passing a city where a good friend lives. I texted her, still being on the train, and set up a date for my return a few days later. I call that spontaneous. I had no idea how to get home or whether I had enough clothes with me, but I figured I would manage somehow and so I did. Just do and say what you want.

imironmantoo · 2013-03-11T09:44:08+00:00

The only reason why i commenting is because you asked "is it possible to change my personality?"

"Personality" is an illusion we create and sometimes is pushed upon us, we have the ability to change whatever aspect of our lives we desire when ever we desire. We as humas are actors, everything we do on our day to day life is acting, we act differently when interacting with our parents, friends, girls, lovers etc etc. So basically since we are always acting the theory of "personality" can be disqualified, when you begin to understand that you can be and change who you are the possibilities are limitless. We have a lot of mental "road blocks" persay, that we've learned from our parent's/friends that they don't even know are holding them back, keep educating yourself and trying to be the best you can be and like I said, the possibilities will be endless.

sed-caelys · 2013-03-11T13:00:01+00:00

Take it as you will, but I look at rational and predictable as being two different things. I consider myself very rational, but that doesn't mean that I can't have good conversation, and come up with fun date ideas that are very different and out of the box.

Even if a date isn't anything super crazy, a good way I try and add some spice is by not telling the girl what the plans are for the night. Just get them locked in for some fun for a set amount of time, and roll from place to place doing different things. Every time I have done it, they are like a giggly little school girl about to get a present and pester me almost relentlessly trying to figure out what we are about to do. You have the night calculated and planned out, but it is all spontaneous and random to them. I will drop hints like "wear something comfortable" or "wear shoes easy to walk in", etc. - based off the type of activity. They love it.

shamwow19 · 2013-03-11T13:19:04+00:00

Whats your age?? I have a feeling the game changes big time when you are in your late late 20's and in your 30+'s

at that point women are tired of dumbasses, looking to settle down, looking for professional's. Basically they are looking for a MATE not a sex machine.

however early 20's its all about sex basically

Blue_Link · 2013-03-11T15:50:45+00:00

A lot of re-wiring in the brain. It has a lot to do with how you were brought up and precived the world around. Pick up new habits, hobbies and activities.

Entershikari · 2013-03-12T17:04:27+00:00

DUde why are you living on other expectations ? Live on your own value and let other live on your expectations !

Be yourself

rikjames90 · 2013-03-20T03:24:00+00:00

if i may.

no see check it out. you are never going to be successful in every approach. your not casanova. some chicks just don't dig you. people do have types. some girls don't like fat guys, some don't like skinny they all have preferences. as with you im sure. lets face it, shes wants the have sex as much as we do, probably even more so because they have an organ made specifically just for that. pretend like you didn't notice how hot she was. now the brilliance with openers. the direct ones if you ask me, work 50 percent of the time. going up to a girl saying shes cute, banter banter banter, works very well with insecure chicks, nerdy chicks and fat chicks. people who don't normally hear that on a day to day basis but then we got the hot girls in yoga pants with their nice asses and nice chest. they know they look good as soon as they step out the door. you wont tell the first bro you meet that he has a nice chest or ass so why do it to girl bros. thats why i prefer indirect openers. flying in other the radar like a conversation ninja open with their discussion about whether yoga or Pilates is a better exercise. or for practise, who would win in a fight, a watermelon or grilled cheese sandwich, old people and stoner like this but dont use it every time cause most upstanding quality chicks will answer the question or not but they will think you are weird. its good for AA but dont rely on it. find something interesting in the news or on tv, and open with it. but don't milk that opener. continue on with the conversation. you are going to have the obvious conversations about where shes from, what she does, her name. don't act like its a job interview. imagine how many times shes been asked that question. so mix it up. fuck with her. give her a nickname. tell her it doesn't matter what her name is, if you smell what the rock is cooking. make up your own name like the great gatsby. who cares, you may never see this chick again. if you do, down the line when your dating, she will look back and laugh about how you two met. imagine what shes going to tell her girlfriends because girls definetly gossip. don't think about the outcome of this conversation. don't think about sexing her up. think about the here and now. imagine all the guys who hook up or date girls just to find out shes a selfish bitch or a boring snob. if she can keep up with your banter then go for it cause shes a cool girl. if you want the number after the end of the conversation Ive considered using the line, "you are cute but don't let that go to your head. we should hang out. i want you to have my number you have to promise not to call me all the time and hit on me, cause i'm not a piece of meat" I used a variation of that and it works. but like I said, you are not every girls type. you can say I want you to have my number, at the very worst we will be just friends" she can say yes she can say no but lady luck has its ways. its all about the game and how you play it. triple h wwe style. so basically the girls you seem to attract that you don't really want to attract. and wont stop bugging you. that's the girl version of you and how much shit your giving girls by being clingy. before attraction sets in. in terms of two and half men. do you want to be the charlie harper/ sheen of getting girls or the alan harper of getting girls.

2013-03-11T14:03:24+00:00

what a stupid question

Title	How to be more spontaneous and unpredictable?
Author	RecoveringAFC88
Upvotes	8
Comments	12
Date	March 11, 2013 3:10 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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