This Weekend i was out at a local ''party'' where i met a lot of old classmates from 5-6 years ago.
We drank quite a bit, and i noticed something: I came into this state of just being myself, talking with everybody and anyone, being really confident and didnt care what anybody thought of me.
This is not normal for me, at least not in a sober state. When i've drank in the past, i had the same thing happen.
One girl which i knew, but had 0 Interest in, was pretty into me, and the more i ignored her interest, the she laughed at my jokes and became more touchy. Thats the first time i expierenced this first hand.

But how can i come into this state while sober?
To just make it feel natural going up to people and start a convo, not caring about the outcome?

I feel like i am a introverted extrovert if that makes sense...
And because of that sometimes i feel like im missing out on so much that could have been if i wasnt that shy normally.
Also, the enviroment makes a big difference. Nightlife is easier, and i really like nightlife and the casual atmosphere that comes with it (im from switzerland, people tend to be way too serious and formal most of the time)

This is something i really struggle with and would appreciate any tips or info :)