How to consistently be Confident/Alpha/Positive

sykilik101 · 2016-03-31T23:59:48+00:00

You know how when you're sad, you end up not smiling, you're quiet, you tend to wanna be left alone, and all that jazz? You don't do these things because you decided "I'm sad, so I'm gonna do these things." You do them because you're being sad, and that state of being sad affected not only how you act, but how the world sees you as a result of your emotional state and the corresponding actions. It happens naturally, without you actively trying.

Happiness and confidence are the same way. When you're happy/confident, you naturally act a certain way. You don't have to try to be more friendly, more upbeat, or whatnot, it just comes to you. However, you don't actually become those things, you live them. Being happy and confident are the side effects of things that cause happiness and confidence.

So what things make you confident and happy? Doing your hair? Dressing well? A savage day at the gym? Maybe you accomplished something you've been meaning to. To consistently be happy and confident means to consistently do and pursue the things in life that bring you happiness/confidence, not trying to become them. So focus in doing what makes you happy, what makes you feel confident. Then you'll naturally be them, and you'll naturally act differently as a result.

AttractandSeduce · 2016-04-01T01:10:18+00:00

Remember this: The state your in most often becomes your default setting.

You get to that stage by taking complete control of your state everyday.

Action steps to having more STATE control throughout the day 1. Have POWERFUL affirmations every morning and every night before going to bed. Repeat them out loud and look at yourself in the mirror while you do it. 2. Throughout the day when your just walking around, doing tasks that you can do without thinking or doing task that you don't really enjoy, repeat powerful affirmations to yourself. Say things like, "I'm dominant", "I'm great at teasing", "I'm great at challenging people", "I love myself" and add any other affirmation you want.

Remember, state control is something every man has control over.

Bonus tip: Realize that life has ups and downs so avoid beating yourself up when your not in state every minute of the day. For the most part, it's in your control so decide what default state you want to have on a daily basis.

CrushHazard · 2016-04-01T05:14:09+00:00

For whatever reason, when that feel good phase starts to fizzle out, I start falling back into a weak, negative and bitchy mental state.

That's reality setting in. Change your reality and you will change your attitude. It's as simple as that. You can waste your entire life trying to be confident without the success to back it up, or you can just go for it and get that success and then you won't even need to think about being confident because it will just happen. Your choice.

evilgenivs · 2016-04-01T10:54:21+00:00

I know how you feel.

One of the worst fucked up things in my life is my eczema which can become really really bad and I mean reaaal bad out of the blue. I almost become depressed when that happens. I can't sleep, too much itching. I look bad, it hurts. It destroys my life.

It's just stupid. Whenever I feel good my eczema is gone. When my eczema is gone, I feel good. Whenever I have eczema, I feel bad. I feel bad when I have eczema. It's a circle I can't leave and I've tried everything to fight my eczema yes.

So please, try to find out why you are sad. All you people without this problem are having a great time, believe me.

MikeBond008 · 2016-03-31T23:57:24+00:00

This isnt just a personal problem its something that most people face and everyone has a different solution for me it was meditation and working out.

If I ever start feeling bummed I immediately go outside and walk to a park and make sure to say hi to people when I walk and try to talk to a girl.

Big_TX · 2016-04-01T05:49:50+00:00

What /u/sykilik101 says.

(Sorry I'm tired and this is probably porly written.)

It also like to add that doing what you should do builds confidence. Plowing through resistance to what you should do builds confidence and feeling good. Achieving stuff builds confidence. Going after what you want builds confidence and viger. Socialize Frequently butlds confidence. Being lowed in a club builds temporary confidence.

Becoming good at something builds confidence.

Better posture builds confidence.

It sounds like you just get motivated. Go get motsvated. Go out have fun. Then go and socilize more. Never stop for for a good wile. Keep the ball Rolling. You social skills will build on what you gained from the day before. Eventualy you will reach higher levels. And you will be better is you quit going out. (But no where near as good as if you went out all the time)

KawnN · 2016-04-02T12:25:14+00:00

Since you are new, may e you hear too many advice here, that is one of 2 things you will see here. People here won't make much for you only inspire you and tell what to do.

I will tell you what you should do after now. The seduction is two puzzles and is simple to understand but hard to do. First puzzle is theory, here you can learn a lifetime theory which won't end for years. The second puzzle is the hard one, to take action. To do what theory says.

If you want to learn seduction you don't even need theory it is only 20% of the seduction. Approaching and getting in the field however is 80% of the seduction. You learn everything in the field. Doing seduction stuff feels weird and seems terrifying inside mind because who lurks in seduction was once a nerd or geek or self-conscious person who seek change.

Now you only need to go out and practice for days, weeks, months. You will feel that you are changing. If you live in western culture country like England, USA, France, Germany etc. Where approaching is no big deal you should go out and change. If you don't go out you will end up in a nutshell where a lot of seduction lurkers end. This truth may be harsh but it is a reality and TRUTH.

Title	How to consistently be Confident/Alpha/Positive
Author	steezmonster99
Upvotes	20
Comments	9
Date	March 31, 2016 11:33 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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