It's Marseille, France. I want to have a chill night in and don't want to go out.

My roommate drags me out because the whole city is a huge festival. Some special event cannot even remember why. I don't want to, but he convinces me somehow.

''You're gonna f'*ck tonight'' he says, seemingly more exited than me. He knows I have a dry spell since 4 years (god was I horny back then...). I remember trying to sleep with a boner so hard it actually made me cry because I was so horny but sexually a complete failure.

Okay. We go out. I approach like 10 women. Some of them of course get annoyed. I get screamed at.
I'm losing hope. Again this feeling. I don't want to go home alone. AGAIN. AFTER ALL THIS WORK.
We walk in a popular area when a cute girl catches my eye. She holds eye contact slightly longer than other strangers. There's this short spark of sexual tension between us.

I'm angry, however, hurt by the women who rejected me that night. Fuck it, say, and manage to beat my ego. I approach. Slight touch on the arm. Hi.

Her girlfriends keep on walking, but she stays with me. I escalate very quickly, touching her more and more intimately within the first 2 minutes. First her arm. Then her back. Finally, I go for the kiss. Rejected.

Fair enough, I think. Maybe two minutes is too fast.

I ask her what's wrong. ''Is it too fast for you'?'' Yes she says.

Two minutes later, boom, we start making out. Drunken on validation because she's so hot, I make out with her, looking at my friend with an evil smile, trying to prove my success to him. What a dick I was. He motivated me to come out...

Anyhow. I lead her away from her friends group. She follows. I realize I don't have a key. And don't know where my roommate is. Fuck.

Okay I say. Let's grab a drink tomorrow night. Okay she says.
We meet the next day and start making out again. 10 minutes later, I took her to my place and slept with her. Dry spell killed. Look at me, a man who is having sex. Finally, not a total loser anymore. At least so I thought.

If there are lessons to be taken here, it's

  1. Don't let rejection stop you from continuing. You might let the love of your life pass just because you're hurt
  2. If you're the man: Escalate quickly physically if you think she likes you (smiling a lot, playing with her hair, isolating herself with you). Take the lead in any situation, from kissing her to fucking her.

If you want my advice you can drop me a dm, I would be happy to help you since I was clueless about seduction for most of my life.