How to have fun when cold approaching by yourself?

Kenic_In_MD · 2018-04-23T04:46:16+00:00

My question is how do I get myself into the frame

Stop caring so much when you approach, and stop with the lame pick-up lines.

I'm scared as shit.

The worst she can do to you is say "no" you WILL survive the interaction regardless, just keep that in mind.

BetterBeLuckyThanGud · 2018-04-23T08:55:14+00:00

Try approaching without saying a single word. Pretend you're mute and write stuff down on phone in emergency case. Im doing this for this week , i find it ultra fun and its very educational. Report back plz

coldbrew18 · 2018-04-23T19:32:34+00:00

“I don’t know what to say, no ones ever let me talk this long” -op

hunterpua · 2018-04-24T07:43:17+00:00

Make a habit of complimenting 5 girls a day and immediately walking away after delivering the compliment.

The reason why this..."I'm going to die someday and this won't even matter so just be yourself and have fun fuck it"...doesn't get through to you is because fear resides in the subconscious and that sentence is a conscious thought.

What you're doing with the compliment then walk away habit is communicating directly to your subconscious. Here's what happens in your brain when you do that...

Conscious: Hi, hello...Nice hair...have a good day. Bye. So...I'm basically giving away compliments...she seems happy about what I just said.

Subconscious: This guy (you) is approaching someone he doesn't know...Damn! She's hot. I want to fuck her brains out!...Oh! She's really happy!............wait, another hot girl that I really want to fuck? She's happy too?!..........hold up, another fine piece of ass?? Let me guess...yeah, she's really happy that we approached her...man, I must be inside a really good looking body...hey! Why are you walking away?! The girl's turning back looking at us, smiling! Go back! She wants the D!

So basically you're training your subconscious to connect the act of you approaching an attractive stranger to a positive result since giving a compliment and walking away expecting nothing in return is almost guaranteed to make the other person happy.

I recommend doing this over a period of a month or however long it takes to kill every last bit of nerves you have. It worked for me in two weeks. The reason why I recommend doing this over a period of time is your subconscious might say, "Nah, yesterday was just a lucky day. There's no way the same thing is gonna happen today." But then you make it so it does. You subconscious will persist over a long period trying to say that all those experiences were flukes because most of your life has been spent living under the assumption that pretty girls don't like being approached by a guy they don't know so it takes time to re-wire that. Eventually, as you get positive responses day after day, your subconscious will have no choice but to relent and say, "Alright, I guess I actually am inside an awesome guy's body."

You'll notice this as you go along. The first time you bang out your 5 compliments, you'll feel awesome, like you can approach anyone, no sign of nerves anywhere. But then you go home, still feeling awesome, you go to sleep. Then you wake up the next day telling yourself you're gonna do the 5 compliments again but you'll notice, the nerves are back. Don't be discouraged. Thats just the subconscious pushing back against the new idea. Eventually, you'll wake up feeling no nerves, that's when you know that your subconscious is fully convinced that you're awesome!

I've taught tons of guys to do this over the years and there have even been instances where the girls reopen them and ask them out on dates.

If you can set things up so that these are the experiences you're getting in your first month approaching people, nerves will become a thing of the past and you'll have the time of your life approaching hot girls.

You have to genuinely have the intention of only approaching to give a compliment and you have to genuinely not care about getting a reaction from the other person, so try to leave as soon as she understands the compliment.

Try it. You'll be amazed by the results.

PalioBoy · 2018-04-23T07:32:36+00:00

Here is how it was for me:

Initially I was cold approaching without fun. You should learn to control your approach anxiety, it might take some time. Then I invented some jokes, which I thought are funny and tried them on girls. For example when I was seeing a girl in glasses I said "Hey, you look like Harry Potter! Where is your scar?"

Also you must be funny/social with everybody else, for example when cashier asks you something, tell her a joke or at least something more, not only what logically is required.

WIA20XX · 2018-04-23T10:36:22+00:00

Sing along to the music at the bar/club before you get there. And then open your first set within three minutes.

Eventually you'll have to grow up and run game "out of state", but you have time.

perlman_sonata_1 · 2018-04-23T19:05:10+00:00

How I enjoy it:

Talk to anyone who is not occupied, not just girls. Makes it a lot more fun. I recently talked to an old guy from Chechenya, and he was the most beautiful man I have ever talked to. Great beard, bright, icey eyes, well dressed, standing upright – I would have followed him to siberia if he would have asked me to. Another time I heard a guy singing, sat down next to him, and asked him what he was singing. I then sang with him. It was great.
Talk about things you like. I really like semi-philosophical questions that anybody can answer, like "What is in your opinion art?", or debating about whether corporeal punishment should be preferred to jail, or what a status symbol is, or whether bringing children into this world is morally justified. But you have to find something you would want to talk about. But talk about what you like. If it didn't work, fine, you still had a nice conversation (or not).

michaelpua · 2018-04-24T00:36:43+00:00

Good job on trying, clearly you have nothing to bring to the table other than thinking too much, walking up to a girl then delivering the opener...

Learn the London daygame model and maybe there is a lay waiting for you within the 500 to 1000 girls that you are going to approach, good luck

Title	How to have fun when cold approaching by yourself?
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Date	April 23, 2018 4:41 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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