I haven't had sex with 100s of girls or anything, but I'd like to say when an opportunity arises, I can escalate to sex if the time is right.

The only issue I have is, which has happened with the last 2 girls, is that I can't maintain a sexual frame.

At first when we meet, up to when we have sex, I have a more sexual frame. I've had one girl say "I can't say I've talked about this kind of stuff before a first date before, but I like it", and another say "you always get what you want. It's so hot".

But after we've had sex for the first time, it's like I turn AFC mode and start doing needy shit... like texting them every day, sleeping over and getting breakfast with them in the morning after dates, etc. I always worry about seeming like "that guy" that just fucks a girl and treats her like an object, just expecting sex. But at the same time, maybe I need to get it out of my head that wanting sex a lot isn't so bad. I end up acting like I'm pursuing a relationship and I feel as though it is off putting at times. I want to be able to maintain a sexual frame at all times, while also being able to actually have fun with the girl (hang out, not necessarily exclusively, etc).

The one time I had a girl around for the longest, was some girl I met online. Little bit heavier set, not fat necessarily. We met the first night at her house and fucked. Then I texted her sometime the next day about the sex, went to her place again and we fucked more. It was basically just this for a good few months: only texting to make plans for me to come over, maybe a random convo about some anime or something, not going on dates...

How do you maintain a sexual frame throughout a relationship?