I never feel satisfied unless I'm having success with girls.. help?

seduce_my_anus · 2014-10-15T02:47:03+00:00

You use the affection that you get from girls as an outlet to validate yourself. It seems that you're much less invested in yourself than you are in other girls.

You need to invest in yourself more and do other things than JUST trying to pick-up girls. What do you like? Mountain-Biking? Writing? Playing an instrument? Find something that you like to do and focus only on yourself. Put your needs before anything else. This might sound selfish, but it is vital to your self-development.

jeanisss · 2014-10-15T01:36:15+00:00

You need to be more comfortable in your own skin. Once you are satisfied with yourself, being yourself, enjoy the company of yourself, then, the girls will come, and you will realize that true happiness comes not from the company of women, but rather, the satisfaction of seeing your ideal self. =)

ThatDudeDillon · 2014-10-15T06:46:19+00:00

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brownj99 · 2014-10-15T07:39:23+00:00

You're putting your self worth in something very dangerous and unstable.

Do you boo. Do you.

rangamatchstick · 2014-10-15T02:16:43+00:00

Similar issue here op although mine would be more linked to lack of progress, but is still definatley a similar issue with if one date fails I feel like crap unless I have a backup.

Im going to start trying more new things, things that make me happy without girls as to be really good at this you have to be happy with yourself and what you have, then treat game and getting girls as a luxury as its not something you need.

So start trying new hobbies, try sailing, do salsa classes (didnt pickup much in the classes but had a good record straight after due to awesome state I was in after), anything that you find interesting although preferably one were there are girls you would be interested in (I race remote control cars as a hobby, not the best when it comes to opportunity hahah).

santereality · 2014-10-15T04:42:48+00:00

Honestly man, sometimes you're just gonna have a shitty week. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. But make sure your good weeks aren't just because you hooked up with some girl. She's just a girl after all.

Faimes · 2014-10-15T08:55:50+00:00

Easy method: Spread your attention towards many areas of life. When one screws up, you have 9 others to focus on instead, thus bad times will happen very infrequently. Harder method: Realise that bad emotions are necessary for good emotions. EMBRACE the bad emotions, love that you feel bad, weak etc. one day - for it will define when you feel good and strong the other day :-).

poontang_conqueror · 2014-10-15T01:35:12+00:00

I know there is a video about this, sadly I cant find it. You are outcome dependent, which you often get bored with. Just focus on feeling good when ever you do something! Like when you go talk to some random people, and whether it will be a success or a failure, just think to your self "Atleast I did it!"

Edit: I think I found it... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w65qBE-5fWg - Not completely sure if it's that. But it is a great show anyways, you won't regret watching it!

EliahtheMessiah · 2014-10-15T08:26:27+00:00

Practise tantra sex (the new tantra). Not instant. But within 20 days your problem will be fixed.

chubbupp · 2014-10-15T10:28:41+00:00

Sounds like you could use a girlfriend man, nothing like steady poon. Pickung up is always fun and exciting but lets be honest its unreliable as fuck. So for now id say keep meeting as many new girls as you can, casual hookups, and maybe one grows into a beautiful plant. Then you fuck the plant until its your gf.

RufusFlywheel · 2014-10-15T12:43:14+00:00

If you're not enough without a woman, you'll never be enough with one (or many).

Redshirt2604 · 2014-10-15T22:02:57+00:00

Write field reports. Not for Reddit particularly, but rather for your eyes alone. They help you analyze and develop trends with the women you encounter and thereby become better at your own game. Pickup is not a set of rules but rather a set of tools that you have at your disposal. You should always be learning, always be changing, always striving to become better. You're never the best and there's always room for improvement. Experiment, try different strategies until you find a few that work well. After that it will all become natural and you won't feel so shitty when one girl won't call back. Fuck her, move on to another that's more receptive. Happy hunting my friend.

Title	I never feel satisfied unless I'm having success with girls.. help?
Author	YouPetroleumJelly
Upvotes	27
Comments	16
Date	October 15, 2014 1:04 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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