How to not stall when cold approaching?

fiveuthu · 2021-07-25T23:23:30+00:00

Here's how I do it. I walk up and say "hey you're cute, my name is Dan are you single? If she says she has a BF I say ok no worries have a nice day."

I do not want a girl with a BF because I hate drama and girls with BF's have drama. Also if she's lying, I don't want to see a girl who lied to me within the first 39 seconds of interaction, (this is just my personal style, not everyone will agree).

The girls who are interested, I start talking to and then I get a number. I'll do 20 approaches a day and line up as many numbers as I can. I supplement my day game with online as well. I'll usually get as many leads as I can, and get a date each night. I'll start my dates around 7 and usually end up at her place. My house is 15 miles from the city so logistically it's a challenge.

I run game like a business, numbers in and numbers out. Consistency, no matter how many girls I have on my dick I'm still out pounding the pavement. The reason I do this game style is because I run two full time jobs and I have to wake up at 5am. I can't be out till 3am. This is good news for any young professionals who work all the time but still need a romantic life.

earsurgery9 · 2021-07-25T19:25:36+00:00

So what things have you learn that you failed to apply? Give some examples of the things you forget in set

As you say, all 'expert' coaches disagree on literally everything imaginable. Every possible thing in game or that you can do in an interaction will have some PUA experts who advocate it, and some who say it's awful game

Ask yourself why that is, though. I'd argue it's because everything works and nothing works. To the same degree. It works when you open a girl who is attracted to you, and it fails when you're just not her type.

So i'd probably advise to not worry about it too much. Massively simplify it (which in turn will improve your sub communications as you won't be using up all of your RAM trying to remember the pushpull lines or to get her to qualify or whatever.

Having said that, I remember feeling the same way a long time ago. Read so much, but in the heat of the moment it's kind of impossible to recall all of this theory and stuff. Especially when you have numerous 'models' in your head, and, as you say all teh coaches disagree on everything lol

I'd say, go out for a while and try direct game. Maybe 50 sets. Not much to remember. Walk up, say hi, make a comment that tells her your interested in her and not here to be her best friend. Say whatever comes to your head. There's no rules. Flirt. Ask her about herself etc. You'll know if she's into you fairly fast. If she is, escaalte. Touch her more and slow it all down a bit. If she isn't into it, move on

Then try 50 sets with indirect game. Open with a comment or observation. Then just make small talk. Say whatever you want. If she's into you, a lot of it will take care of itself because she will be contributing which means you're less likely to run out of things to say. After a while, increase the flirting. Escalate. Bail if she doesn't comply

The things you're forgetting are probably various 'attraction material' like negs and cold reads and pushpull lines and basically 'game' - but honestly, none of that stuff is even that important. Game isn't witchcraft. None of them lines are gonna make a girl attracted to you if she wasn't already.

Kinro- · 2021-07-25T19:24:27+00:00

Most of the time what you say doesn’t matter at all it’s all in how you say it … act or be cool slow low tone of voice if you can pull these things together it’ll work

TheSunshineMan · 2021-07-25T21:18:26+00:00

2 second rule - don't go more than 2 seconds without approaching, you won't give your brain enough time to make excuses to not do it.

2021-07-26T05:02:56+00:00

If it really mattered what you said, you could take the same scenario, the same woman, the same approach, the same lines and have 100 guys do the same line but they all were of different ages, different styles, different personalities, etc and some would work and some would not.

You can imagine this in your head and automatically understand why. It’s not just what you said - that part is important - but the only reason why we get clammed up over that is because we’re unsure about how to navigate the situation in a way that doesn’t make us look like a creep / pervert / weirdo.

All that’s happening is that you’ve seen a woman, you’ve found her attractive, you get that instant urge to simply go to her and to meet her.

How you do this is a multifactorial thing and that’s why when you approach it all falls apart because when this is relatively new, you haven’t quite grasped the bigger picture yet and that’s OK. You WILL learn it over time. Sometimes on single approach will be a mind blowing realisation and that will change your entire approach mindset and make you much smoother in everything from the actual approach, to the close and even to being rejected.

I’ve always been completely against using “pick up lines” because they don’t feel natural to how I am/ my personality. It’s either natural for me or I don’t do it.

Every approach you do, immediately afterwards, find somewhere where you can sit down and go over it in your mind. Go over every moment and review what went right, what could have gone better, what did you do that you didn’t intend to do or forgot to do. You’ll notice very quickly that there will be a common feature. When you identify what that is, why you’re doing it (which is why self awareness is so important) you’ll make massive improvements in your inner game.

indeblack_ · 2021-07-26T05:59:04+00:00

Practice on ugly bitches

whodoesntgiveafuck · 2021-07-26T07:40:44+00:00

That's a basic problem that happens to almost everyone. Just practice. You're just too nervous to remember and apply the things that you've learned. All you need is to go outside and screw up a couple of times again. Then you'll be able to calm yourself down. It takes time and practice. You're in the RIght path. Don't worry bro.

Title	How to not stall when cold approaching?
Author	Responsible_Cat_694
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Date	July 25, 2021 7:00 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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