I have always been a guy with low confidence. Last year though I discovered this subreddit and I got a lot more confident SOMETIMES. Over the last 6 months or so I've noticed that my confidence has a lot of ups and downs. There are days and weeks where I don't feel confident (I feel VERY insecure and even socially awkward sometimes tbh on these days) and then there are days where I'm a social god and VERY confident. My looks are good so my confidence will decide the outcome at the end of the day.

Yesterday was one of these days where I was confident. I was at a party of a friend and there were a lot of beautiful girls, that were my type as well. At first I was a bit intimated (its just my nature that I was born with i gueds, Im not a natural) but then I remembered this subreddit again and came over it, basic stuff. I approached about 10 girls this night which is a LOT for me. But more important.. I was approached by about 30 girls this night. My confidence was overflowing. Everyone wanted to talk to me and I had a lot to talk about I was like a fountain. It was one of these perfect nights for me even though closing wasn't possible since it was the 18th birthday of one of my best friends (female) and it was mostly her friends cousins etc approaching me and their parents were here and stuff, I didn't want to make a scene. But I realized I didn't even wanna close that night.. I just wanted to have fun and some good conversations, and everything turned out perfectly, just how I liked it.

So on the other hand, I have these very low confidence days. Its not that I feel very insecure... I cant even talk or think right. On these days Im very passive in a conversation. But I noticed that not only my mouth stops but my brain also. I stop thinking a lot. When Im confident I think about a lot so I have a lot to talk about etc. But here it is the opposite.

So my question is, how can I affect or even control my confidence? Is there a way to make every day a high confidence day? Or even just increase the amount of high confidence days? If yes please help me , Im really desperate since about 75% im on these low confidence days and dont know what to do about it. It must be a psychological thing I guess. Btw, my confidence can change from one day to the other.

Sorry for this chaotic post and my bad english, thanks for every answer in advance :)