How to proceed from here

Seiiiiiii · 2025-07-23T13:57:32+00:00

Rule of thumb: if you’re the one having initiated the conversation last time, wait until she doesn’t next time. Even if it takes days. That’s how you’re always never more needy than her by text.

elpulgaa · 2025-07-23T12:58:50+00:00

Never sound or look too needy bro even if she likes u the neediness gonna make her feel like you’re less and desperate yk so at you situation id suggest to ignore her until she reach out if she did not then she’s not for you bro cause you already made the first (step)s you’re supposed to as a man

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-07-23T15:32:32+00:00

Women don't care abour your frustration. Women only do things if they feel like it, not because you guilt trip them into it, or because you complain that you want more.

The fact that you are more invested than she is with 3 dates is your problem. It's you trying to go at a faster pace than she feels like going. That suggests you are not on the same page and she is not going to catch up to your rhythm just because you are frustrated she doesn't go faster, specially when it's only being 3 dates.

Women never respond men who try to rush things, who are needy, who have certain outcome expectations by certain deadlines, or who try to lock her down into a commitment too soon.

You said that when a woman is hot you put her on a pedestal and that's when you begin to rush things. What that tells me is that because she is hot you are worried you won't be able to keep her, that maybe you are worried another guy will seduce her and she will lose interest in you, so you get more tempted to rush into getting labels and commitments and clarity as soon as possible to feel "safe and in control".

But that's not legitimate behaviour because it's rooted in fear. It's you trying to avoid being vulnerable and preventing yoruself from getting your hopes up for nothing in the end, and that's not how relationships are formed. Relationships are formed through patience, through uncertainty, through spontaneity and being outcome detached.

It's also the man's job to initiate thigns at the beggining, i can see why you are upset she doesn't do it, because if she was the one doing it more often then that would tell you soething, it would ive you clarity indirectly that things are progressing towards where you want, but she is not doing it for now and thus because you want to rush things you get impatient and worry because you want to avoid being vulnerable.

Unfortunately for you, complaining to her about why she is not on the same page as you already is not going to make her more ready, it would actually do the opposite she would distance more as you would be pressuring her. A woman has to choose you at her pace and on her own terms, when she naturally feels invested, not by you demanding she feels invested faster.

Most healthy women need quite some time to fall in love with a guy usually 2 or 3 months, so after 3 dates in less than a month this is not the time to shift the vibe into expectations, commitments, and making thigns serious and having arguments. That energy is guarantee to turn her off. So you have to be aptient and keep hooking up without trying to define what this is or where it's going for now.

Level-Bread5827 · 2025-07-23T14:22:04+00:00

Some girls you have to chase dude. Some girls you have a more balanced dynamic, and others chase you while you can sit back and let them make the plans. It is what is.

I'm confused though. Did you seriously say it's been a week since your last response and you're torn with where you stand? Do you not want to take the responsibility as a man and continue to carry the vibe and set up dates?

Yeah you shouldn't be chasing but it's also on you to keep the ball rolling, and when you haven't heard from her in a week because you're following the retarded trend in this subreddit about not double texting (or waiting for her to text back which she might never do), things aren't looking too good for you. There's way to express your frustration in a way that doesn't make you look like a chode but crying to her that she's not initiating as much as you ain't it.

Title	How to proceed from here
Author	FrankMiller_
Upvotes	4
Comments	8
Date	July 23, 2025 12:46 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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