How to separate authenticity and vulnerability and neediness?

letsgetrandy · 2015-12-11T20:04:48+00:00

Needy: "I'm really lonely."

Authentic: "I haven't been in a relationship in a while."

Needy: "I wish I was better with public situations."

Authentic: "I've been trying to become a little more outgoing."

Needy: "Would a girl like you ever be interested in a guy like me."

Authentic: "I was surprised when you agreed to meet me tonight. You seem like someone who runs in different crowds than I do."

Needy: "It's kinda depressing when girls don't talk to me."

Authentic: "I've been noticing that I need to change something about how I talk to people."

So basically, needy people talk a lot about their problems, presenting them as uncontrolled conditions that they hope someone else will fix, whereas authentic people describe their awareness of their flaws, taking responsibility for them and owning a plan to move forward with fixing them on their own.

PowerSeductionWar · 2015-12-11T18:49:38+00:00

Expression vs Reaction-seeking.

Which one is it?

Title	How to separate authenticity and vulnerability and neediness?
Author	sedditseddit
Upvotes	3
Comments	2
Date	December 11, 2015 5:12 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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